unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 The girl that i have loved for the last couple months said something to me very odd the other day. We had just got done with supper and we were alone, I had said i love you to her 3 or 4 times already that night and like always she said it right back. Then after dinner i said i love you again and she said i love you too, but then she asked why i said i love you so much. I said "because that is the way i feel about you" Then she asked me if i needed to hear it from her because my parents don't say it and stuff like that. I said "no i just like saying it to you" after that we really didn't talk about it anymore, until later that night when i was talking to her online and she said "i love you" too me and i said "i love you too" and right after that she said "you know that i mean that right." i said that i did know it and i said that i love her to. She then said I truly do love you. So my question is what is the deal with right after supper, am i saying "i love you" to her too much, or am i just making to big of a deal out of this? Any tips out there? Link to comment
DN Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 She may be thinking that you say it so much because you are a little insecure about her love for you. The important thing is that she says she loves you and says she really means it. Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 well DN she is the first person who i have truly had feelings for that has feelings for me back, we have so much in common, and we truly care about eachother. I just feel like saying "i love you" to her as much as i possibly can. Link to comment
CarrieB123 Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 I couldnt agree more with DN And sometimes girls tend to over think things... needed to hear it from her because my parents don't say it and stuff like that But didn't your parents say it to you? Just kiddin, I was being the "over-thinking women" LOL! Link to comment
DN Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 That's good - just don't look too needy or desperate, that can be a turn-off Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 CarrieB123 i know that my parents love me very much, i just don't have the relationship like my girlfriend has with her parents where they say they love her everynight before she goes asleep Link to comment
melrich Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Yeah i think sometimes it gets questioned if it is said too much. Like an ex of mine would never say "see you" at the end of a phone call or if I was heading off to work..it was always "love you" so it sort of just became a substitute for "see you"...God can anyone make sense of that? Anyway, maybe that's what your g/f is saying..are you just saying it or do you mean it. Link to comment
CarrieB123 Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 My parents said it to me all the time too, and later in life I found out that my grandma didnt say it to my dad, which made him want to say it to me and my brother even more. Just a thought. And try this maybe, because I love to hear I love you, but I also like to see "I love you" meaning without the words, with actions. And I am sorry about asking you about your parents loving you I was just making a joke, I think sometimes I am the only one who really thinks that I am all that funny. it was always "love you" so it sort of just became a substitute for "see you Thats what me and my dad say too at the end of conversations, he says just incase something ever happened to either of us, the last words to eachother would be "I Love You" Link to comment
twelve Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 you don't need to worry about her love for you but you need to stop saying it so much or you may push her away. Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 well richgabe i have never told anyone that i loved them before my girlfriend, and it is something that when i say it i mean it everytime. I just love spending time with her when ever i can. I can feel great just walking down the hall way, but when i see her nothing else matters. I feel 100% better no matter how good i already felt. so to answer your question i do mean i love you when i say "i love you" to her. p.s. i also so goodbye at the end of a phone call or instant message Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 twelve how do you think i could push her away when i say "i love you" too much. Maybe its just me but i don't see how that could be a bad thing? Link to comment
melrich Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Yeah, I wasn't questioning whether you meant it or not....just thinking that maybe where your g/fs question was coming from. anyway that's cool you guys are so in love. Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 thanks richgabe, i know that im only 18 but i didn't think i could be this happy with anyone i would meet, i always hoped that i would find someone like her but i didn't want to get hurt, because i have been hurt before. she is the same way she never thought she would find someone. Link to comment
DN Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Because saying it too much can be overwhelming for the recipient. And after a while it can lose that 'special' feeling because it becomes dulled by repetition. Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 o i c where your coming from DN, i'll admit the most special time i said "i love you" was the first time i said it, but it still has a lot of meaning to me and to her, and she says it right back to me alot also Link to comment
discordant_verse Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 unicycle, I agree with DN. The power of the 3 simple words should not be diluted with frivolous usage. Otherwise, it just becomes meaningless. Now, instead of saying that so often, how about you DO something to show you love her? Something sweet, romantic or loving? There are many many ways of showing or saying those three words. Get creative, let your heart guide you. Cheers DV Link to comment
melrich Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 Yeah that's very true. You know pick a bunch of flowers from the garden and surprise her with them (really doesn't matter how crappy they look!)...something like that...it does say a lot. Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 discordant_verse, i do things that are sweet, and romantic as much as i can, she is really my first girlfriend, except middle school girlfriends but all i did was walk them to class, so i don't know a whole lot of things to do, i did take her out for chinese on our 2 month anniversary because she loves chinese and things like that all the time Link to comment
melrich Posted March 31, 2005 Share Posted March 31, 2005 You know...do things that take some effort...don't just buy things...make her a card, pick some flowers, write her a poem...your g/f will love all that...don't go overboard and do it all on the one day...lol Link to comment
unicycle Posted March 31, 2005 Author Share Posted March 31, 2005 thanks for the tips richgabe maybe i'll try some of those ideas out. Link to comment
unicycle Posted April 1, 2005 Author Share Posted April 1, 2005 does anyone out there think that i am just over reacting on this whole situation Link to comment
twelve Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 twelve how do you think i could push her away when i say "i love you" too much. Maybe its just me but i don't see how that could be a bad thing? I don't mean to sound harsh as I am trying to help, but being blunt is often the best help. It is too full on. Maybe after three years of being together but not now. Link to comment
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