boson222 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 I have been lurking around here for a while now and thought about posting about my experience with break ups. A couple of years ago, I was friends with a girl for a while. We then dated for a few months until hit the fan and she broke up with me. I was devastated it was my first relationship and all. We had no direct contact for nine months (we had a class together). Over time I felt wayyy better and decided to contact her. By then I was over her. She responded very positively and slowly she started bringing up reconciliation. I quietly turned it down. This went on for quite a while until it stopped. After this we became good friends (still are). I asked her a while ago how she felt after the breakup and she told me for the first three months she had negative feelings but after this she wanted to talk to me but was too shy to do it. An ex I dated and then dumped, begged and pleaded for a month before going ghost. I felt relieved for a while but after this I started feeling attracted again. We ended up talking again and this time she turned me down. An ex I dated a while ago broke up with me for various reasons. The issue back then is that we were in the same class and a month was left before the end of the semester so it was a bit tough after which I went ghost right away (to heal and nothing more). 5 months after the breakup (4 after the end of the semester) she contacts me but by then I was way over her. Most recent ex the one I truly loved contacted me on my birthday two weeks ago sending me a really nice message. I know it doesn't mean anything specific but it was a nice gesture. I won't deny it brought my hopes up but I stayed NC. Said ex previously said we could talk during our winter break (i.e. now) since she would finally be over with her stress. I won't deny that I have some hope but it is better to move on. Anyway I just wanted to share some experience I hope it helps... Link to comment
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