Justash Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Sorry if this is a long one! So I've never had the best luck in relationships, had 2 end out of the blue so was hoping it would be third time lucky, by the looks of it it won't be! We have been together 7 months, known each other 10. Things in general are great, we get in a few heated discussions nothing major. He's 4 years younger than me and his dad to say the least is very protective. He made a rule we are only allowed to see each other once a week but that has gotten better. December was when it mainly started. It took me a while to meet him and he had told my boyfriend he will never agree with our relationship before he even met me. When I eventually met him I was petrified but he is really nice to my surprise. Has told me a few times I am welcome over anytime. Today I had arranged to go over but his dad told him I was not allowed and cancelled on me. He's even gone as far as saying I'm not allowed to see him on his birthday in a few days. My boyfriend has tried talking to him but all he says is 'you're too young to settle down' (he is 19). I am in no way looking to get married or have a child etc but on the other hand I don't think it's much to ask to see him twice a week? I think my boyfriend is a little scared of him as he finds it hard to stand up to him. I'm not sure how much more I can take of this as at the moment it seems like he's trying to get us to turn against each other and I feel it's starting to work. HELP?!! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Does he live with his dad? Link to comment
Justash Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 Yeah still lives with him. Has told me it will never change as long as he lives there but we're in no position to move out together Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 He is just barely entering adulthood and still needs his dad for survival so he is going to have to follow his dad's rules until he can support himself. Link to comment
Hm1357 Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 It sounds like your boyfriend's dad has control issues. I disagree that he should have to follow his father's rules just because he lives with him. At the age of 19, he should be allowed to seek a healthy relationship unless it was a consuming, overbearing relationship that caused him to neglect his responsibilities and priorities. If he is scared of his father, was he ever abused? If there's no history of abuse, I would want my boyfriend to have a heart to heart conversation about him growing to be a man and his dad needs to let that happen. Link to comment
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