Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 my bf broke up with me two months back.. he said he cant be in a relationship right now.... but I got the vibe that it was over. he texted the next day and said goodnight.. and the next morning asked what I was doing.. I ignored the messages... He asked if I wont reply. I started feeling bad and also wanted to show that I was fine, so I replied.. then we started talking normally. we never met though,,, we meet now in groups... he still messages me , like small talk everyday.. he parties and drinks a lot, and whenever he does that, he never replies to my messages... he will reply in the morning! does any of this mean something ? I don't know if he is confused or he is talking normally to me. we basically talk almost everyday, atleast five texts a day... normal stuff.. Link to comment
LovelyDani87 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 It's probably just out of habit, it's pretty hard to stop texting someone (or calling) if you two spent a great amount of time together. Eventually when you get tired of being confused and hitting a wall, you'll stop replying.. unless you are interested in becoming good friends. Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 We spent five months together.. Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 He generally doesn't express anything! He never asked me out, I had to make him ask me... but if he wants me back, I shouldn't depend on msgs right or signals right ? Since he broke it , he will make it direct? I don't want to talk to him and make it friendship, if he has other ideas in his head and just not telling me about it and hoping I would understand? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Doesn't want you back. He's not interested. He likes the attention you give him. Nothing more. I would stop texting, as you're emotionally invested. Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 Like you mentioned, I am confused now. I thought I ll talk to him and end the confusion by making my talk sound like what u felt to break up was almost mutual types... and not ruin future contact... I know I ll never approach him and ask him to get back ever. But I also dont want to kill the chances of him asking me .. but should I be scared to put him off or take it that whatever I tell him, if he is strong enough to want me back , he ll come himself? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Why did he end the relationship? Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Tell him to only contact you if he wants to reconcile. Other than that, The longer you stay in his life as "just a friend," the less he'll respect you and the less attraction he'll feel for you . He is probably just afraid of being alone and want you around for emotional support - Once he's secure in his next relationship, he'll lose interest in having you around Link to comment
freewill1234 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 The sooner you cut him off, the better for you. If he wanted you back, he'd make it clear to you. He hasn't made this clear, he's playing games to keep you around and emotionally invested. This can go on for years if you're not careful. Do you want that for yourself? Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 Should I talk to him and somehow convey that whatever happened was mutual ? That way I save my self respect and when we do text, no one thinks someone is leading them on? I am sure I want to make it 100% mutual yet from my side.. but I know that he left me once, and its not good to stay with such people unless they prove otherwise.. Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 He felt I changed. And that we are different people. basically he treated me like . I shouldn't even be talking to him, but I don't want to kill anything now as I am here only for few more months. I just want to end it on a good note. But I don't understand what he is doing. Link to comment
Wetash Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 He texts properly at times, and suppose I send something a little personal like something about a band he likes, he backs off and doesn't reply. Link to comment
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