youngin Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 OK so I asked a girl out after social studies... it was kinda rushed because I was low on time and I kinda took her by surprise. (I don't know her too well but i have been talking to her during classes and stuff). Ok so heres roughly the conversation: Me: "Hey, _____, can I ask you a question?" Her: "Ya?" Me: "Well I was just wondering, mebbe if you werent busy this weekend, if you would want to let me take you to a movie or something?" Her: "Well I was planning on going to the dance...."*** Me: "Oh. Well honestly I can't really dance. But maybe I could try to get a ticket" (we need to buy tickets beforehand at my school) Her: "OK" (well I think this is the jist of what she said. Honestly I get really nervous when I do stuff like this, and dont remember the exact wording) Me: "OK, where do you want to meet?" Her: "Here" Me: "You mean right here?" Her: "Ya here" Me: "Wait... right here?" (I was thinking what the heck? does she mean outside the social studies room) Her: "At the school... thats where the dance is." (i kinda looked dumb here... oh well) Me: "Oh ok.. cya later" *both leave for next class* ***OK heres where I messed up. I assumed that by this she was sugesting that we could meet up at the dance. However, later I realized that she could have been using this as an excuse to say she was busy. I guess it turned out alright. Furthermore, later that day this one hyper-ADD girl yells out i the hall "hey its the kid thats going out with ___" . This obvioulsy means that ____ said something to one of her friends, but they probably twisted herr words around and I have no idea if this is a good or bad sign (the hyper-ADD kid was saying it to kinda make fun of me, but this shows that ____ at least mentioned it later). Well, now I think ill go to the dance tomorrow night and see if i can find ____. I'm just worried that she'l have a group of friends and theyll laugh at me and/or ___ changes her mind or wasnt serious cause I caught her by surprise. Then my reputation would be screwed for a long time. So I have a few questions... 1. Do you think I messed up asking her out too badly, do you think she was serious, and do you think I should go? 2. What should I do about annoying, immature people who's goal in life is to ruin yours? 3. What do you make of ___ telling people about me asking her out? 4. What should I say to be able to tell if ___ is genuinely intersted in me? 5. What should I say/do/how should I act in general? We're freshmen (14), but there are freshman through seniors. It's a mardi gras dance, but it is like a week from valentines day. 6. I cant dance fer ****, and I was hoping to avoid it alltogether. Any tips? Should I especially avoid slow dancing, as that could be pretty awkward... (esp for the first time like this)? 7. I am really awkward at this kinda stuff. Any other tips/encouragement? Thanks for your help and please respond ASAP, as the dance is tomorrow (saturday) night! Link to comment
inspiration Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 like sonic said... don't sweat impressing people... just do what you think is right. if she isn't there you know how she is and leave it at that... if she can't just say no about going to a dance with you... what else would she lie to you about? just my .02. -.ins Link to comment
Caldus Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 1. Do you think I messed up asking her out too badly, do you think she was serious, and do you think I should go? Absolutely. Go find her. If you can't find her then find someone else to dance with. Either way, it's better than staying home right? 2. What should I do about annoying, immature people who's goal in life is to ruin yours? Simple. Don't let them do it. People who are annoying and immature are also insecure about themselves so don't take what they say personally. 3. What do you make of ___ telling people about me asking her out? Yes, it sounds like she spreaded the news like a virus. If she's doing this kind of stuff to you then I don't think she's right for you. 4. What should I say to be able to tell if ___ is genuinely intersted in me? Uh...just talk to her. Stop worrying about what she is thinking. If she likes you then she likes you. Go find her at the dance and ask her if she would like to dance with you. 5. What should I say/do/how should I act in general? We're freshmen (14), but there are freshman through seniors. It's a mardi gras dance, but it is like a week from valentines day. Be yourself. Stop worrying about what other people think of you and let yourself be you. Do not try to act different in order to impress people. 6. I cant dance fer ****, and I was hoping to avoid it alltogether. Any tips? Should I especially avoid slow dancing, as that could be pretty awkward... (esp for the first time like this)? Go with the flow. What kind of music is gonna be there? I am only good at dancing to techno/trance music but that's just me. Play Dance Dance Revolution at the arcade to get better at following along the beat of the music (LOL kind of a joke but that game really does help with that a bit). 7. I am really awkward at this kinda stuff. Any other tips/encouragement? I think this girl isn't right for you. I also think you need to relax and stop being so worried about this dance. Sounds like you're more worried than excited about it. Link to comment
youngin Posted February 5, 2005 Author Share Posted February 5, 2005 I think this girl isn't right for you. I also think you need to relax and stop being so worried about this dance. Sounds like you're more worried than excited about it. Well on that, she's super nice, i think it woulda turned out better if i wasnt so awkward, which i wouldnt have been if i had more time, which i woulda if it wasnt for the teacher talking to ____ after class. Anyway ill try to relax. Ill try to have fun to and see if i can make it go well with her. At least ill try to save my rep. Thanks all Link to comment
Emotional Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 You should have got her number lol...she probley told her friends because she was exited, anxious,nervous... The lil Add person sounds like she needs to get a life...Leave it alone... If i were in ur situation i would show up at the dance with a few other of ur friends just in case this girl was messing with u...That way you will have back up ...But i th ink this girl was just nervous... Link to comment
youngin Posted February 5, 2005 Author Share Posted February 5, 2005 ya unfortunately none of my friends r going. I was just trying to get her #, the she brought up the dance! The lil Add person sounds like she needs to get a life...Leave it alone... Ya i guess. Anyway, I guess I'll kinda show up and act like im not really expecting too much unless she does, so ill play it by ear. I really dont wanna make myself look desperate like that. Well see. Ill tell u guys how it turns out! 6 hours left till the dance! Link to comment
DropToZero Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 MY SIG Says it all! Go, but don't go to the dance FOR her....just go to have fun. If you see her, talk, but don't hang around her the whole time. Link to comment
youngin Posted February 5, 2005 Author Share Posted February 5, 2005 MY SIG Says it all! Go, but don't go to the dance FOR her....just go to have fun. If you see her, talk, but don't hang around her the whole time. Hmmmm... ya that sounds like a good idea. Ill still try to get her #/AIM tho! hey im ruting for ya man good luck Thx! Thanks for the advice all! One hour left! OMG can't wait.... BTW do others suggest I stay with her the whole time (assuming it goes well), or make some excuse to go somewhere else? Link to comment
Caldus Posted February 5, 2005 Share Posted February 5, 2005 Um...if you're having a good time with her then stay with her. Otherwise, go find someone else to hang with. Link to comment
DropToZero Posted February 6, 2005 Share Posted February 6, 2005 You don't sound like you're going to get this in time. But yea...the reason I said not to hang around her the whole time is for a GOOD reason. If you see her and its going well and she's having a good time with you, you can stay for a little while. "little" meaning like no more than like 30 mins of the dance talking or dancing...make sure you go dance with other girls and talk with other friends. Ask for her number...then LEAVE....do not stay and talk longer. You got her number, then tell her you're going to go hang with your friend(or whoever you meet at the dance). Theres logic behind the idea that the less you're around her, the more she'll want to think about you. Just like anything in the world, the less you can have something, the more you want it. So don't become too available and hang around her the whole time. Have fun! Link to comment
youngin Posted February 6, 2005 Author Share Posted February 6, 2005 ya i didnt get the last two in time anyway: she showed up like 30 min late, which was ok I guess cause her friend told me she was running late. We talked fer a while, and she tried to teach me how to dance (again, i really cant dance). Then slow dancing, etc... Etc... anyway the point is it went great and we stayed together almost the whole time, minus a few breaks/w.e. to chat with friends/get punch. I definitely second guessed myself, I had no reason to worry at all! That was awesome! 8) Link to comment
inspiration Posted February 6, 2005 Share Posted February 6, 2005 Uhhhh did you get her number or was she still interested! ahhhhh if you like her and you didn't any clues argh argh argh i don't know what to say! -.ins Link to comment
DropToZero Posted February 6, 2005 Share Posted February 6, 2005 GREAT Man!...I'd say you have an awesome chance...wait, not even chance, YOU'RE IN lol.... She was willing to teach you to dance even..that's cool. Whatever you're doing, you're doing it fine, keep it up....later Link to comment
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