I'm tried or talking

[inarut]

Okay I made the mistake of lying to my gf, about porn and a few other things. Nothing that had bad intentions though. It still isn't right, I understand. Well for 8 months I've focused on changing my behaviour, and have. But she is incredibly insecure. If I get off early she thinks I'm poking at porn or masturbating. If I take a shower she thinks I'm jacking off. She constantly asks me if I have watched porn, and then even tells me I'm lying. At least once every two days we talk about it. She asks me why she's not good enough etc.... No matter what I do I can not show her I love her. We have to talk about everything!!!!!!!! She finds or has to find meaning in everything. She's also negative as can be. Well to the point we were being intimate she stopped rolled over and closed her eyes. I ask if everything was okay, and no response. I said brb and put clothes in the dryer (I understand it wasn't the best thing to do) but she just rolled over and wouldn't say anything. Well she cried for hours and wouldn't talk to me. That whole thing flipped a swich. I'm over the insecurities and having to constantly reassure, I'm over trying to make up for hurting her when she can't stop obsessing. I'm tried of long drawn out convoys where I have to think about EVERY WORD so I'm not taken wrong. But I want to be with her still what do I do!?!?

[RainyCoast]

if you still want to be with her you could

 

-suggest she take counseling for her insecurities and cross your fingers

-settle for a girlfriend who's too deep in her insecurity to be reasoned with.

 

not everyone agrees to work on their issues. some take counseling but have nothing to show for it. some take an awful long time to change. sometimes it's impossible to rebuild trust in people who lied.

 

are you sure it's worth your time?

[shessofly]

if you haven't already told her how you feel then start there. if she is unwilling to do anything about her own issues, then you have two options - stay and be miserable, or end the relationship.