CAN SOMEONE HELP ME HELP HER :-)

[FissionX]

Ok heres the situation, Theres this girl (famous words) and we go to the same school. I only have one class with her, and that is french. I became attracted to her the second i saw her but never thought of it as anything serious. It wasn't until about 4 months ago when my feelings for her started getting much deeper. I don't hangout with her nor are we close friends, we ocasionlly talk but thats as far as it goes. I started expression my feelings for her a bit more outwardly, and it seems to me that she also had somesort of attraction towards me for many reasons i will not go into. I did not say anything too direct about what i felt until about a month ago when i caught up with her walking home and asked if we could get together and do something someday. She responded with an unenthusiastic "sure", at this point i also asked her if i could call her sometime, this time she responded with a very unconvincing "Im kinda talking to a guy right now". Ok let me get to the point. When i or some other person besides her close friends talk to her she seems to ignore us and give a respond that really makes you feel like she doesn't give a crap what your saying, and sometimes makes your reapeat your self 2 or 3 times until she actually figures your talking to her. She does not do this when her close friends talk to her. She always does this to me yet she can sit infront of me and sentually rub my head in an effort to flirt. She also gives me these looks that combine dwith other stuff she does makes me think she actually likes me. I wrote a short note that expressed my feelings for her and placed it in her book bag, and i know it was affetive couse of the way she looked at me that same day after she found it. I was really confused about how she felt so i got a friend of mine to ask her during french while i whent to another class wether or not she really liked me. According to him she answered him in that same tone and way that i mentioned above, uncarring and like she was too good for me. By the way im older than her, shes a freshman and im a junior, and i know she doesn't really thing shes better than me. I know why she acts the way she does, becouse i used to be just like that a long time ago, I would try and make myself look more important by ignoring and acting like i didn't care what the people who are really above me said to me. Its a repressive defensive mechanisim used by many. I don't know excactly what to think, im really confused. I want to know the truth about her feelings. But i guess the only way to get a straight answer is by asking her myself in private, but theres no way that i know of were i can talk to her privately about her bad habit. I really care about her and want help her even if it turns out she doesn't want to be involved with me. Please help im not sure what to do or how to go on about this.

 

If theres a girl out there that can give me their prospective on her behavior please let me know.

 

Thanks, moi

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OK first of all, I really dont kno what her problem is. you sound awesome, I mean u gave her a note expressing your feelings AWW. Ne ways, I kno that wen I have classes or wen I am around someone who is older than me, I act like I dont care whats going on, and that Im always relaxed or w/e. Actually this is weird, but im a sophmore and theres is this junior in my spanish class ( lol same kinda situation ), and wen Im talkin to him I act like I never pay attention or never kno whats goin on, even wen I do. Also I will talk to my friend who sits next to him, I sit behind him, and he will ask what were talkin about and Ill say we werent talkin to you ( nicley of course ). But see the thing is, I dont want himto think im interested. I want him to have to come to me, and try to win me over. So maybe thats what shes doin. And about her only talking to her friends openly. I do that also, because i am comfortable aroudn them. THere is this one guy who i like a lot, adn wen he comes around i cant talk to him, b/c im to shy, so i turn and keep on talkin to my friends. I dont mean to hurt him, but i dont kno what to say. So from the looks of her actions, I think she may be attracted to you. Plus u also have a big advanteage, in that girls like older guys. So try harder, joke wioth her and get her to laugh. Then maybe drop other little hints, adn once u r comfortable with her, go up to her and ask her out. Good luck, i hope that wasnt confusinf, i hope i helped. PZ

[FissionX]

Hey, thanx. You don't know how glad i am to know that her behavior isn't really a negative sign.

 

Theres just this one other thing that was kinda weird. The after my friend had asked her wether or not she was intrested she did something she had never done before. Usually everday i pass by her table during lunch outside in the couryard to go get my lunch. I sit on one side of the courtyard she sits on the other. But this time after i got my lunch and headed back to my table with a friend, right when i passed by her she got up and sat 2 tables away from mine with one of her male friends whom used to be in our french class. At first she kept glancing at me then she just sat there with her head down, while her friend stared at me. By the way that friend really is just a friend of hers. I didn't realize it till later that day that this could have been the perfect chance for me to have a serious talk with her. Can someone tell me why she did that, she has never in the whole school year ever gone to this side of the courtyard much less sat there.

 

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By the way ive wondered what the hell to do if i do ask her out and she says yes. Couse isn't that a little elmentary, the whole "will you go out with me thing".

 

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Awww man, i only have 1.5 weeks to work this whole thing out, couse school ends next next wednesday.

 

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I can't get her out of my head