Miss my ex

[heartbroken84]

So my ex broke up with me a little over 2 months ago. I obsessively called, begged, emailed asking for another chance. He basically blocked me from everything.

Well he sent me and my mom a holiday card. Nice gesture. Then I met with his mom and she gave me an ornament that ex gave for me. She said it made him think of me. His mom says he talks about me all the time about the good times. His mom also said that in her opinion hes not thinking about getting back together and has moved on.

 

I still love him and would like to figure out how to get a second chance with him. I called him to thank him for ornament and luckily call went to voicemail-before I was blocked-so this must mean something.

 

I'd like to write more detail about the relationship and breakup, but maybe at a later time.

 

Why the heck do you think he would give me a cute little owl ornament? I mean he's my ex...

[Lost love]

He probably is thinking about you, but at the same time give him some space and try to work on the main reason why he left. That would help the relationship if y'all get back together.

[heartbroken84]

Thank you--but his mom's opinion is that he has moved on and getting back together is not on his mind...

[CraigHowes]

He broke up with you remember that. So he has to want to come back. No amount of begging and being nice to him will work.

 

You only really miss something when it's gone. So disappear, go silent and go No contact. Who knows if he will come back or not but he is going to have to do it off he's own back.

 

You can't control that or him and in truth he is not part of your life any more. Every time you contact him it's self torture and like going back to day 1 of the breakup again. Why would you want to keep replaying such a heartbreaking event.

 

It's time to sum up all your will and let him and his mum go so that you can grow and get on with your life. It won't be easy change never is but you'll come out the other side a stronger person and you'll learn a lot about yourself in the process.

[heartbroken84]

He's prolly trying to be friendly--but he's my ex I don't want him as my friend, he broke my heart. I do want to get back together just dont know how.

[Lost love]

To me, if he still thinking about you to the point he bought you a gift then there still might be some hope.

[heartbroken84]

Lost love- the gift was weird

A person should know that will only throw someone in for a loop and get confused. But his mom said he was just being nice.

[CraigHowes]

Men are hunters, if he wanted you back he would let you know in a more direct way than a gift.

 

Guard yourself and listen to what his mum is saying. You can only go on the information you have and anything above this is just your internal hope and desires.

[kbbcoop77]

Unless he clearly states he wants to get back together then everything else is mindless chatter!! You will drive yourself crazy trying to analyze every syllable, just forget him and cut off all contact. I wouldnt be talking to his mom either, that's indirect contact. Any info you get about him keeps him alive in your head. That messes with healing!! Good luck

[loxley13]

It sounds like he is playing mind games and his mother is meddling. I personally would never take my ex's mother's opinion to heart. There are a lot of mother's out there who would rather have their son depend solely on them than see them happy with another woman. It is twisted but my ex's mom was one of them. She caused a lot of turmoil in my relationship by telling me what she thought her son was thinking and feeling. I listened at first but then realized, she was doing it to drive us apart so she could have her "baby" back (he is 33). His whole family including him told her to stop meddling and keep her mouth shut.

I think just leave it at the thank you message and wait and see. You have left the ball in his court now.

[heartbroken84]

I made the stupid mistake of saying I would jump off the bridge in an effort to win him back. It was just a call for attention. You think he would ever come back if I said that? It does'nt look positive.

[kbbcoop77]

There is NOTHING u can say to make him crawl back, short of winning the powerball lottery lol. Seriously you can't change his mind only he can. He's already made his mind up.