lovingtheextra Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 I don't know exactly what triggered it but lately I have been obsessing over what my ex is doing. Simple things as if she is having fun, is she seeing someone, does she even think about me. And it is strange because of the timing. It has been a good few months since the break up and I was doing really good. But lately I keep on thinking about these things. And whats worse is that I compare my imagination of what she is doing to what I am doing. And then I feel jealous that maybe I am not doing as much or as good as she is. It is kind of ruining my days. Now I know I am not over her. And I know that I miss her and things of such, but I also know that I don't want another relationship with the her, at least not a the moment, because it won't work. So why am I thinking so much, why am I judging myself? Should I just take this as another phase? I feel like I need to do more to prove something to myself. And I really dislike having to feel that way. I don't want to do things just to be doing more or better than a particular person but rather just because I want to. Now what confuses me even more is whether these things that I feel like I "should" be doing are because I truly want to or because I am being influenced by these recent thoughts. I guess it could be both. Just confused as to how I should handle the situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Keep improving yourself for you...that is the goal in life anyway. Its not.a contest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deejay74 Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 I think this is normal. I'm doing the same thing but I have to keep reminding myself to focus on me. it's easier said than done but we have to do it. I'm right there with you. keep focusing on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Dark Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Improving yourself is the positive in a break up. To become more than what you were when she was with you.] Maybe you will find someone else in the process. Maybe you will she will want you back but you have become more than what she could ever deserve. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovingtheextra Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 You guys are right. It is like deejay said though, easier said than done. But I will try. Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgman Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 It's completely normal to get obsessed about your ex after the breakup, but it's not healthy to do so. You need to deactivate your FB account for a while to stop the temptation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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