throwitaway Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 Going to try and make this short because this has been going on for years. My friend and I have known each other for over 10 years and for about the first 5 of those years we were both in relationships. We both are currently single and live a couple hours away from each other but still see each other frequently. Over the past 2 years he has made it very obvious he is interested in me (always find a way to bring sex into the conversation, comments on my body/looks, if we're hanging late at night he tries to get me to stay over, one night on vacation I woke up to him standing over me and asked him what the hell and he said I just want to know what it would be like to kiss you and then he proceeds to). So I don't believe him being interested in me is all in my head. Or is it? Because a while ago he got me to stay the night by finally just grabbing my arm and kissing me, we did not have sex because HE didn't want to and I respected that, so instead just fooled around a bit and talked about how nice it felt to be with each other. Well jump to two days later when I drive a couple of hours back home and decide I should let him know how I feel. I explain to him the thought of us together makes me really happy and I think we could be something awesome together and I'm finally ready to give it a shot. He responded with that night we stayed together was great but he's worried about our friendship. I tell him I am too but in my mind how can we not give this a shot? We already know each other so well, get along great, have similar interests...if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out, but to never give it a chance seems silly to me. He says he has to think and about a week goes by. So by this point time has gotten the better of me and I freak out a bit thinking maybe I made a mistake which he immediately responds to with telling me he can't do a long distance relationship and values our friendship way too much to ever do anything to jeopardize it. So I agreed and never brought it up again. A couple of months have passed since all that and he's completely returned to his regular ways with me and I'm at a loss cause I do like him but feel like he made it clear he didn't want me. Do I keep my mouth shut or tell him how I feel again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 He knows how you feel...and he doesn't feel the same way. For him the fantasy was better than a possible reality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HarunGotD4mula Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 If you allow things to get any further you'll end up getting hurt,I don't think he loves you,he lust for you.so my advice will be to redefine this friendship and stop this flirting,eventually you will find a man who knows what he want Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benkuske Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 sounds like he wants friends with benefits. he wants you, but he doesn't want you. I'm sure he's "nice" but nice isn't a statement of who a person really is. Do you want to be with someone who has that sort of character? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
throwitaway Posted November 1, 2013 Author Share Posted November 1, 2013 thank you all for your responses. that's three he's not into yous and i can take a hint. i can't control how he acts around me but from here on out i'll just have to remind myself i can control how i feel and pining for him just ain't worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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