collegegirl Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I am a 22 year old female, virgin. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months. I want to have sex with him but he hasn't told me he loves me. I know he cares about me a lot. If I have sex with him now, will it prevent him from ever loving me? Should I wait longer? He hasn't pushed me at all and he wants me to make the decision for myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhowe Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 It is entirely up to you. But if he hasn't told you he loves you, if he isn't pushing for sex --- then there is no "need" to do it to prove your love for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appies Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I think its an appropriate time to have sex if you feel comfortable and its something you want to do. He may not be saying he loves so that he doesnt put pressure on you. Have you told him you that you love him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appies Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I have had sex with women before I loved them and later developed feeling of love, I don;t think there is a formula for it. I would say if he has hung around for 9 months, hes not just looking to score. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solamente Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 if you have to ask, then you are not ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
agent1607307371 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Having sex won't stop someone from loving you. Having sex won't make someone love you. The same goes for not having sex. I agree with solamente - if you have to ask, you're not ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
louisecar Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Having sex won't stop someone from loving you. Having sex won't make someone love you. Exactly! If you feel comfortable and you want to have sex then go for it. It's not like he has been trying to get his leg over or he wouldn't be around this long. However, do not have sex if it is only to please him. Do it because you want to and you feel ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capilot Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 As Woody Allen once said: "Sex without love is a shallow experience. But as shallow experiences go, it's one of the best." Anyway, in my experience, sex very often does lead to love, but don't count on it, and don't do it for that reason. One more point: just because he doesn't *say* he loves you, doesn't mean that he doesn't. Lot of men can't talk about their feelings (we're raised that way), and saying "I love you" is an extremely risky thing for a man to do. It's almost always ended badly for me when I've done it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragunov-21 Posted October 18, 2013 Share Posted October 18, 2013 Having sex won't stop someone from loving you. Having sex won't make someone love you. The same goes for not having sex. I agree with solamente - if you have to ask, you're not ready. First bit, definitely, second bit I'm not so sure; I've noticed a lot of girls are conflicted because they want sex but are programmed to think that they have to hold off until it's "time to give it up". If you want to have sex with him and he wants to have sex with you, go nuts. Otherwise, nyet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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