cheating boyfriend, please help

[heartbroken1212]

im in a horrible situation...i know they say "once a cheater always a cheater", but does it vary in situations? here is mine

I was in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, i love him more than i've ever loved anyone else...from how he made it seem, he felt the same way.

anyway, he admitted to me that he had sex with a girl i know about a minth ago, not once but twice (2 days in a row). I figured it out exactly when it was, and i remember the next day he came to visit me out of no where (I go to school about an hour away, but i see him on the weekends). I remember that night he was expressing his feelings like he's never has before. He was saying things like that he wanted to be with me forever, and that he never wants to lose me, and that he never felt this way about anyone, etc. Was he doing this to make himself feel better for what he did, or did he realize that he could lose me? im so confused. I really love him with all of my heart, and i am considering giving him a 2nd chance. He kept telling me that it was the biggest mistake of his life, and that he would never do it again. Im so hurt though, what do i do?

Just forgetting about him and leaving him is easier said than done. please let me know what you think.

[calibabe007]

Im so sorry, i knwo how you feel exactly, I had the same thing, Hun, you deserve better. Iknow you ahve probally heard that a million times, but if a guy really care about you and respected you, then he wouldnt have had the slightest urge to cheat. please take my advice, iv been there. leave him and dont look back!

Calibabe007

[Sapient]

I'm sorry to say but I've been in your shoes... sorta... I dated a girl for about 1 year and was absolutely in love with her... I got dumped on valentines day... only to find out 2 days later that all the while when I was dating her she was sleeping with all my friends...

 

Cheaters deserve to ROT IN HELL!

 

Ditch em!

[RedWolf]

Once I gave a cheater another chance, and I regreted it. Leave em in the dust...It's not like you could forget about it anyways...Good luck!

[Cheryl Carvalho]

I am concerned about you and your situation, I know that this is a very hard time for you. I am not going to tell you to leave or stay...that decision is up to you. You know your boyfriend better than anyone, and thereforeeeeeee only you can determine if he is sincere or not. Take a few days to sort out your feelings, and try not to make a rash decision. It appeared that your boyfriend was sincere about what he communicated to you during the time he told you about his brief fling. Forgiveness is truly up to you. Only you can determine if your relationship is worth salvaging, and if you are willing to forgive him. Trusting him again may be very difficult...it is difficult for most individuals after their partner has cheated. It is a process, and your "forgiveness factor" will determine how long it will take for you to heal your broken heart. I wish you the very best whatever decision you decide to choose.

[Princess85]

I really understand the way you feel. Let me put it this way. I am 18 & pregnant and I live with my boyfriend. He met a girl and I found out. For one week he started to get home at 6 in the morning. I left to my moms house and he started to beg me. I decided to gove him a chance & when I came back home I found out that he was cheating on me with another girl. He would take her out to places in my car. But I was very stupid for staying with him. Now today I found out that he went to go see her after he had told me that he didn't have anything to do with her. I think the only reason why I am still with him is because of the baby I have in my womb, because I honestly think that I don't feel anything for him anymore. I don't know what to do can someone give some advise?

[RedWolf]

Leave him! Your relationship will end up hurting your baby sometime. Are you sure your going to keep this baby? If you really wanted to work something out with him (though you shouldn't IMHO) you should give it up for adoption or if you wanted to, abort it. Just try to watch out for your future. Best of luck to ya!