I_KicKed_keNNedy Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 I notice a bunch of topics that feature the title with the following formula: (How hopeless you feel) + (Age) + Virgin + (Optional: # of relationships...usually 0). Like "Lonely and disenfranchised 22 year-old virgin, never been in a serious relationship". Why is this necessary? If you're going to post a pathetic personal ad, improve your marketing and try not to come up with a title to make yourself appear... well... pathetic. But seriously, I don't think mentioning that you're a virgin is necessary because what does that signify? Nothing. I know plenty of people who have had sex but have yet to experience a true connection with a person or a lasting relationship. The number of times you've had sex is, in my opinion, extraneous and inconsequential. Have you ever considered why you would (if you are one of these people) post something like that? Maybe you are slowly coming to terms with how uncomfortable you are with your sexuality? Maybe you have abandoned a perfectly good opportunity to be close to someone just because you didn't feel comfortable with them on a physical level? Maybe you are yearning for physical involvement more than personal involvement? Get over it. With some people, their virginity is baggage rather than a badge. I think that society's obsession with sex has made some of us feel uncomfortable about our conscious/unconscious decision not to give it up so easily. I also think our natural genetic predisposition to "mate, feed, repeat..." spurs this discord as well. Get over it. You haven't had sex yet. Great. That means you haven't had the experience of spooning on a moisture spotted sheet, a "two-pump dump", or waking up the next morning looking into the eyes of someone who means less to you than they had the night prior. With sex, like anything in life, there's good and bad, and some of us are already trying to balance the good and bad in life, and if you're bent out of shape about the fact that "everybody else has had more sex than me (funny flash movie if you haven't seen it)" then you're just adding more bad to the already delicate scale of life. Get over it. Experience life as it comes and concentrate on making connections with people emotionally rather than worrying about your deficits in physical endeavors. Thank you. Quote Link to comment
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