twogood24u Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 First of all I will tell a little of the history between is...We have been together for 4 years off and on. We also have a 7 month old son together. We meet each other fell in love and moved in together 4 months later. Im 23 and she is 20. In the first 2 years we where together we started off really happy in a house together. Then we would get into arguments up stupid little things, she would fly off the handle call her parents pack all her stuff and move back in with her dad. A couple times she hit me and broke a lamp on my head and threatened me with stupid things. Then 2 weeks later she would move back in. This routine happened about 5 times. About 5 months ago she then basically moved back in with me at my parents house. We got into another argument about me drinking to much, me having friends she didnt like, and not spending enough time together. So once again she packed everything up no talking or nothing and left. So we didnt talk for a month I then beged for her to come back I told her that I would change and we ended up together again ( keep in mind we have a newborn son during all this). Well I did a complete 180 in life I quite drinking, dropped all my friends, and got a good job and became a good father. We then move back in together well I thought everything was going fine. Until a week ago I decided to go visit my brother. I came home she told me she was going to leave me because she was miserable ( post partum?) and she was generally angry with everything. Well I asked her what she was so angry about and she could only come up with me throwing my shirts on the floor and leaving my shoes by the door instead of putting them away. She also said that I go out too much on my own which I like to call my alone time. Keep in mind I go out tihout her about 1 tiome every 2 weeks. She tells me that going to work should be my alone time. So we talked and worked everything out. So On Sat. I tell her Im going to go visit my brother she starts screamin about how I made my choice and that was it it was over. She then told me if I left she would call the cops and charge me with abuse ( which I have never hit her) so I would get arrested, I got pissed of and left but I came back 2 hours later. She was still mad that I went she was throwing things and yelling she then said she was leaving in the morning. I got up and went to my dads. I got a phonecall from her saying she had moved out and then she hung up. Well I heard from her friend that she told her mom we broke up because I didnt want to settle down and all i wanted to do was party. She told my mom that she left because she thought we where both miserable together and would be happier apart. And that we would never get back together again no more chances. We have talked a few times before it seems that she only fights with me when I go out on my own. She dislikes my father and every time I visit him its a fight waiting to happen. She goes out whenever she wans without even telling me I trust her so i dont call her or anything like that. Well If I go out I have to make an appointment too basically a week before. If she goes out and Im home bored waiting for her so I decide to go out for a bit she freaks out. So too finish this long story once again shes gone no explanation to me about anything, although she call me the day after she moved and said she wouldnt keep my son from me....she asked me a couple questions about where I was and what I was doing. I didnt want to bring anything up so I answered her questions then we got off the phone. I dont drink I rarely go out and I think Im prett damned good to her. I cant see how she thought we where miserable. What should I do, I dont want to call her and beg for her back I did that last time....Im still going to have to see her to visit my son. Should I bring anything up. Should I just let it go. I dont know what too do at this point I mean we didnt even talk about anything before she left ( like always). Am I witha phscyho or what? Please help CHRIS Quote Link to comment
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