LADYBUG691971 Posted November 18, 2004 Share Posted November 18, 2004 Here is my delima: I am very much in love with this man. He is 32, I am 33. I was once married for 9 1/2 years, have 3 children and have ALWAYS been faithful-to my ex and to anyone I have dated. He has been married, is actually still married, but has been separated for 2 1/2 years. He has one child. He admittantly has NEVER been faithful to his wife, nor anyone that he has ever dated. Even the girl he dated and loved for 6 years. He says that this is a VERY different relationship for him in the way that he has no desire to be with anyone else. And I do believe him. He has given me no reason what-so-ever to doubt him or distrust him. Our problem lies in his head, though. He, first of all, feels that his past is going to bite him in the butt by way of him falling in love, and then he gets what he has always done to others in return - CHEAT. Although, I have never given him a reason to be anything other that confident that I won't do that to him. Our second probelm is that I have been single at one time for a while, and during that period, as a woman, I learned to take care of my personal intimate needs on my own without dealing with a man. Well, I have shared part of that intimacy with him, but now I am accused of being a nympho. Oh, I forgot to state that with NO ONE in my past have I EVER enjoyed sex with before, until I met this man. We are 6 1/2 months into our relationship, and I am still extremely pleased in bed. So, there has been time for the "newness" to wear off, and it is still great! BUT, our problem, or his, is that he accuses me of playing with myself ALL THE TIME!! I am so tired of this! It has became a huge problem. If I take a long shower, I am playing with myself. If I get startled when he walks in the room, I am playing with myself. I even play with myself in my sleep. Most men would get off on that! BUT I AM NOT DOING THAT!! He says that he feels that I am fantasizing about other men OR women! OH MY GOD! He is georgeous, sexy, sweet most of the time and I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH! I have no eyes for ANYONE but him! OH, and lastly, most of these accusations come after he has had a few beers. Which is turning into another problem! anywhere from a 6 pack to a 20 pack a day! He made the promise to me at one time to cut it back to 2 beers a day, but that lasted 2 days! There are alot of feelings involved here! We love each other very much, and our kids love us very much! I see a future, if we can get over this crap! Can someone help me out here?? I don't want to let him go!! I do love him, and I know he loves me. HELP!?!?!? Quote Link to comment
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