She broke up with me but keeps me on the line

[Jeffbobo]

I dated this girl for 6 months. She broke up with me because she said I was not ready for a serious relationship. She also told me that she started seeing someone else. Well, when we broke up, I agree that I was not ready and I need to work things out in my life. Since then (been about 1 1/2 months since breakup), she has initiated contact with me. We text frequently, talk regularly and have been out together a few times (she initiates contact a lot more than me). We have not been intimate and it has more been like good friends. She is a social butterfly and has a lot of friends so its not like she needs another. I really do like this girl a lot but am not ready to go further into a relationship. I'm kind of confused in what to do or what may be going on.

[Klokwurk]

Is maintaining this relationship keeping you from pursuing other girls? Is this relationship satisfying what you want out of it?

[DN]

She only keeps you on the line because you allow it. So don't.

[Dawn717]

Hello Jeff,

 

I will tell you my ex and I dated that long, and we borked up, and he eventually started talking to me 5 months later. Luckily for me, I don't have feelings for my ex so it isn't stopping me from dating.

 

But if you feel like there is still a connection between your ex and yourself it may not be good to keep that little thing of hope. I understand you don't want a relationship, but I can tell you still want something out of it.

 

Just be careful, she may just be playing you and it hopes to making you feel vulnerable to hurt you, again.

[LookandLeap]

You're keeping yourself on the line, as DN said. Tell her not to ever contact you again unless she wants to hook up or something. Be mean about it.

[erzerum7]

Time to say bye-bye. She is treating you like garbage, toying with your emotions while cheating with someone else and stringing you along. Next time, just say no.