missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 hi im new here.. basically I just want to talk bout things really and see what other ppl think about what I have to say... iv been with my partner for 3 years.. it was great.. but last oct we moved into our 1st home together.. even tho we lived at his mums b4 that, the thing is he just spends all his spare time on the xbox! he does shifts which are 2.30-11.30pm one week then 6am-2.30 the next... litrally the time hes at home hes on xbox... we don't spend any proper time together.. or do anything together.. we never have sex kiss or just cuddle any more.. iv told him about this so many times but he just says im tryin to stop him palyin it... I get he likes it and it chills him out after work but y does he need to play it so much?! I feel like we r falling apart and its only me that can see it.. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Well its time for you to decide if you want a boyfirend who would rather play with a toy than play with you. Link to comment
thevic Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Has he always being like this or did he just start? Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 no he has played on computers since I met him.. but its only been since we moved intogether that its became constant. I don't want to stop him all together just want him to see tht its effecting us... we broke up over it and he moved bk to his mums for a week told me he would pay more attention to us etc but nothing changed Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 no he has played on computers since I met him.. but its only been since we moved intogether that its became constant. I don't want to stop him all together just want him to see tht its effecting us... we broke up over it and he moved bk to his mums for a week told me he would pay more attention to us etc but nothing changed He very rarely does. And if you were to leave him again, he would make the same empty promise. Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 ino, I don't want to loose him but its not a relationship is it? Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 ino, I don't want to loose him but its not a relationship is it? Not quite as good as the one he has with his game and the people online. What exactly is there to lose? A boy who would rather live in a fantasy world than have sex with his girlfriend? Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 wen hes off the xbox we get on great.. but its very rarely.. I just don't know.. I don't wana break up over an xbox coz sounds pretty sad Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 wen hes off the xbox we get on great.. but its very rarely.. I just don't know.. I don't wana break up over an xbox coz sounds pretty sad You wouldn't be breaking up because of xbox. You would be breaking up because he has chosen to spend all his time on xbox and you are not getting what you need from the relationship. No one is sticking a gun to his head and forcing him to spend all his time on there. He is CHOOSING xbox over you Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Yeah he can't have his cake and eat it too. Why should he get to have fun on his games, ignore you etc until he feels like giving you a bit of attention? thats no way for you to live. He sounds almost addicted to this gaming and fantasy world. He is choosing it over you. I wouldn't accept that. Link to comment
thevic Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 My dear, a man cannot serve two masters at the same time its either he hates one and love the other or the other way round. I think he has made his choice its left for you to accept or refuse. Let him know that its either you or xbox . Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 yeah ino have tried talking it thru but he just don't understand.. just says its his "me time" which I no every1 needs at some point... but defo cant carry on like this Link to comment
thevic Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 yeah ino have tried talking it thru but he just don't understand.. just says its his "me time" which I no every1 needs at some point... but defo cant carry on like this Really? Then he is not ready to make you first in his life. Definitely you can't carry on like this. It is time for you to move. Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 yes it has been the cause of many arguments over the last 5 months... yeah defiantly needs to b sorted Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 yeah ino have tried talking it thru but he just don't understand.. just says its his "me time" which I no every1 needs at some point... but defo cant carry on like this He knows exactly what he's doing, and will continue to do just that, as long as you stand by him. I would make it clear that if he can't solve this in an adult manner, the relationship is over. Say what you mean, and mean what you say, otherwise he'll never take you seriously. Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 I don't wan to leave him coz I do love him...just doesn't seem that simple to just end it? we have a place together having all this new stuff fitted next week etc.. ino I cant just stay coz of that but other than us breakingup is there another solution?? deep down I no there aint..... Link to comment
missyT Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 don't think my life would b worth living if I did that ... made me laugh tho Link to comment
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