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I have a question concerning about anal sex. Well me and my boyfriend have done it like a few times and it freaken hurts like hell, like OMG!!!!! It hurts. I tried to relax but it still hurts like hell!!!! . I just want to know what are the risk of anal sex? I know the rectum has a harmful bacteria called "E. coli" and it could infect him or me. what else am I supposed to be concern about anal sex? I'm just really scared. i just want to know the risk and how to make anal sex feels good.

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Yea it can tear some flesh real good. Worst case senerio he can puncture right through the skin into your vaginal cavity! AHH well that's pretty rare, but it could happen. Anyways, if it hurts like hell maybe you shouldn't be doing it?


Lube is critical, he should apply it to you anus and slow work 1 finger into your rectum and then use 2. Slowly lossening and easing his way in. Eventually he can try to use his penis. A condom and lube is critical for success and safty.


Good luck and have fun.

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I posted this somewhere else before. o_o I didn't organize them... so they're just random info.


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The anal sphincter muscle is not anatomically designed to comfortably admit external objects--it is designed to relax and stretch when stimulated internally by rectal fullness from stool. The automatic reflex is for it to contract and tighten when pressure is applied externally. So relaxation of the sphincter for external penetration is learned over time because otherwise it is very uncomfortable, and must only be done with gentle continual pressure, and lots and lots of lubricant. The risks, even with gentle insertion, are laceration of the anal tissue, and rectal mucosa, resulting in pain, bleeding, and difficulty passing stool comfortably.





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Anal sex does carry some risks to health and comfort even in the absense of a risk of sexually transmitted disease. The vagina is well adapted to sex, being strengthened for this activity and secreting its own lubrication, whereas the anus and rectum are not. Thus, artificial lubrication is generally used in anal sex (oil-based lubricants like Vaseline destroy latex condoms, and the two should not be used together). The anorectal muscles are largely under involuntary control, making slow, gentle, and responsive insertion necessary to avoid pain. Additionally, nothing which has been placed in or at the anus should ever contact the vulva, vagina, or mouth without being thoroughly washed with soap or a similar disinfectant, to avoid infection caused by the transmission of inappropriate bacteria to this area. This includes fingers.


It is also very important to be careful when inserting objects into the anus. Objects with edges or points can cause severe injury. Moreover, objects could get lodged in the rectum, resulting in a trip to the emergency room. (Most dildos nowadays are made with flared bases.) Additionally, nothing longer than eight inches (20 cm) -- be it a penis, a vibrator, or anything else -- should be inserted into the rectum. Objects exceeding eight inches risk colliding with the sigmoid colon. The sigmoid colon's lining isn't much stronger than a wet paper towel, and trauma can result in internal bleeding, with potentially fatal hemorrhage. It would be wise to wash carefully after every use. It is dangerous to share sex toys; if a dildo is used on more than one person, it should be covered with a condom which is changed after each use. (See masturbation for more information on the use of sex toys.)





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I remember having anal sex gives you 30x the normal chance of getting anal cancer, but I'm not sure if it's in this study.





Surg Clin North Am. 2002 Dec;82(6) Related Articles, Links


Anal trauma and foreign bodies.


Hellinger MD.


Division of Colon and Rectal Surgery, DeWitt Daughtry Family Department of Surgery, University of Miami School of Medicine, Miami, FL 33136, USA. email removed


This one also gives you information on anal trauma that can easily be caused by anal penetration. When the problem isn't dealt with it often cause people to lose control of their anus later on in life, which means if you and your wife have anal sex more than once a month, she may have to wear a diaper when she's older. I'm not saying she will, but why risk it.




Here, I wasn't searching correctly... now I found something closer to what I wanted to say.


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If you do cause damage to your rectum, and it doesn't heal due to frequent activities, there's a high chance you'll suffer from fecal incontinence, hence you won't be able to control the movement of your rectum.




I can't find anything significant. That sucks.

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Anal sex does carry with it a risk of tearing and increased possibility for infection (transmitted through the tears). But, you can reduce these chances.


Lots of foreplay is necessary when you are starting out, get him to use his fingers to start, increasing from 1 to 2 to 3 as you get more comfortable. USE LOTS OF LUBRICATION! Ask him to go VERY slowly when you are starting, and if it hurts, make sure he will stop and wait.


Don't go from the anus to the vagina, as you may carry bacteria (or rather he may on his hands/penis).


Starting anal sex is a very slow process, and some guys just expect it to be an instant thing and don't understand it is painful (I mean, in porn all the girls love it, right?).


And if you are not comfortable doing it, don't. Don't do it if you hate it and he pressures you too, or you feel guilty.


Good luck!

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Complete insertion of the penis into the anus is a slow process. There are things that can be done to make the process less painful. There are objects you can buy in order to stretch out the anus. This is something that should be done because it will decrease the amount of pain. It is also important to do research on the topic. The internet is a great resource and use it. Im sure u can find the information you are looking for.

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Well for me it is as simple as that i.e. if anything is not known to me to be done in the proper way then it is best avoided. Prior to my marriage I enquired about this from my more experienced friends and I derived to the conclusion that it is better to stay away from this. So at the present moment we are enjoying it the normal way.

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lol, I thought E. coli was something you get from poorly cooked meat?


Yes, that is true, however E.coli is also found in the rectum of mammals. I forget exactly what the function is in the rectum, but I do know that it is a beneficial one.


In fact, about 1/3 of fecal weight is dead bacteria.


Can't link a source to this info because I learned it in my biology lecture.

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