me4ta Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 OK, here's what happened, we were friends for 4 years, I thought of our friendship as being best friends, which to me constitutes to be supportive, conciderate, help out, etc. etc. and if one of us is doing something bad or not fair or not right - we would tell each other. Well, we made plans to go out past Friday, I e-mailed her several times that day to set the plans (she would not reply the entire day) and suddenly she replies almost at 6pm that she can't go out that night because this guy who she went on the date before (and for the record treated her badly talking on the phone on their date and telling that person that he can easily get rid of my friend if his friend needed him). He didn't make any definite plans as of which day exactly, that Fri or Sat they would go out. So I wrote my friend a reply saying that it wasn't really fair to me to tell me this at the last moment, at least she could tell me earlier so that I could make my own plans, and why was she jumping when he says jump for him, if he treated her badly, it would be possibly wiser to make him chase her..... I get an angry reply saying that it's none of my business when she "jumps to whoever says so" and if I think that it's selfish that she wants to go out with the guy she likes, then she's probably selfish, and that "what, you expect me to let you know first thing in the mornign when I wake up to let you know I have a date???" First of all, she told me about the date at 6pm, we usually get out at 10 to go out.....so I replied I didn't say that I didn't want her to go out with the guy, I said that she should not sit there and wait for him because he didn't make any definite plans besides he treated her badly last time, I said let him chase her.....and i would apreciate letting me know earlier that she can't go out with me..... She stopped talking to me. I need your guys' adivice - was I out of line? I think friends have a right to express their opinion even if it's critical.... Quote Link to comment
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