Akward Silences...

[paperboy48]

I have been datign this "great" girl for the last three months. We are in our mid-thirties. We have both stated we are in-love with each other. Most of the time, we have great conversation-flow. Usually I can't wait to see wait she is going to say next because most of the things she says are so interesting and I do the same, as well.

 

Sometimes after being with each other for a while, like this week we were with each other Wed. night, Thursday night, Friday night and aggain on Saturday afternoon. While going for a walk on Saturday afternoon and in the car later that evening, I basically ran out of things to say...she thought something might be bothering me.

 

Is htis normal? What should we do when there is nothing to say?

[markfromark]

This is normal and it should not bother you. If you are comfortable with talking a walk with her without talking for 20 minutes then you are both ready for this. Silence is needed once in a while.

[Fudgie]

Comfortable, non-awkward silence is one of the benefits to a LTR, in my humble opinion.

 

It's such a treat to walk, eat, whatever and not feel forced to talk. Really, it's lovely.

[DN]

Does she initiate and contribute to conversations?

[becomingkate]

I think it's normal. I'm in a great marriage and we often go for periods of time without speaking. Then a song will come on, or we'll see someone we know and the conversation will pick right up!

 

I like it that we feel comfortable whether we're conversing or not. We're that couple that can go to lunch and read the paper in silence, yet still feel incredibly connected.

[kitkat620]

How about enjoy the silence.

When you reach a point in a relationship when you are just as happy being together in silence as you are chatting up a storm, you have reached the point of pure happiness and security with each other.

Don't over-analyze.

[paperboy48]

How about enjoy the silence.

When you reach a point in a relationship when you are just as happy being together in silence as you are chatting up a storm, you have reached the point of pure happiness and security with each other.

Don't over-analyze.

 

 

 

Ok, I just thought 3 months might be too soon for periods of silence.

[kitkat620]

Personally, I don't think it is ever too soon for some silence, especially since you had spent the last 4 days or so together.

I could give you some suggestions on what to do during those times of silence, but this is a G-rated forum....

[Fudgie]

Everyone is bound to run out of things to say, temporarily, during a relationship. It happens in the beginning, ESP when you've spent the last 4 days or so together. That's a LOT of time.