suzyq1225 Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 stumbled upon this board quite by accident while i was feeling extremely low. I was with my guy for 11 years. We were not married, nor did we live together. several years before we met, he had gone through an awful divorce and custody battle and told me he swore off marriage forever. I loved him so very much I accepted the way things were for 11 years. We lived together on the weekends, mostly at his place and I was happy. After a couple of years he asked me to manage his office, he is a doctor. I did and it was wonderful because I got to be with him each and every day. We were best friends as well as lovers. you all know there is always one person in your life you can talk to about ANYTHING - well he was that for me and ditto for him. He ran into some health problems along the way and I was the only person in his life that stayed by his side night and day. He has four grown children and not one came to see him even when he was in intensive care. He has one sib, a sister, and even she did not fly in to be with him. My God, the man could have died. I ran back and forth from the hospital to his office, I hired covering docs so that he would not have to worry about his business. I would have done anything for this man. 7 months ago on a normal week day in the office we had a little spat. please bear in mind that we really never had fights. we just didn't. all of a sudden he says, "that's it, its over". I was shocked and could not believe what i was hearing. well, he meant it, without warning he left me and he left me completely. I did all the usual dumb stuff, begging, crying, pleading for an explanation. he remained stoic. So I lost him, I lost my job, and i lost my very best friend in the whole world. The weekend before he did this was a fabulous weekend for us, we had so much fun and made love repeatedly and he told me how much he loved me. In fact, on the phone the night before he dumped me he told me he loved me. I had a nervous breakdown, lost 20 lbs. and am in therapy. Its been 7 months and any hope that he would come back is gone. I have lost the love of my life forever. We are not young, like many of you are, I am 56 and he is 58. I recently heard a rumor that he is dating someone new already that he met on the internet. How can he do that? and just wipe out 11 years of history. We adored each other, loved each other and had such wonderful times together. I would appreciate any comments on my situation, as sometimes i feel so terribly alone and scared. I still cry lots and when i look in the mirror i see a very sad look in my eyes that never goes away. Thanks all for putting up with this lengthy post. email removed Quote Link to comment
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