Dating Down. Safe Bet or Resentment Inevitable?

[Shane505]

That's my point. You don't know someone's standards unless they tell you. You can't extrapolate from how they look or how much money they have what kind of person they want. I don't think it's denial.

 

Like someone said would you give a homeless guy a chance? You would think less of him because he is below your standards. Like girls who won't date guys under 5'9", who dont' have a car, etc. But they will compromise if the guy meets all their other criteria. That's what I mean about dating down. Going below your normal standards. Everyone has a preferred checklist in what they want in a mate. Looks, race, socio-economic status, etc. Are you willing to date a homeless man that has all the qualities you want in a man except he is a bum and can't get a job and is an alcoholic?

[goodfoot]

Like someone said would you give a homeless guy a chance? You would think less of him because he is below your standards. Like girls who won't date guys under 5'9", who dont' have a car, etc. But they will compromise if the guy meets all their other criteria. That's what I mean about dating down. Going below your normal standards. Everyone has a preferred checklist in what they want in a mate. Looks, race, socio-economic status, etc. Are you willing to date a homeless man that has all the qualities you want in a man except he is a bum and can't get a job and is an alcoholic?

 

Just to clarify, I'm a heterosexual male so I won't be dating any homeless guys. Even using that as an example, I wouldn't say a gay guy that hit on me is "not in my league." Neither would I say that based on someone's race. It is possible to date someone that doesn't meet your standards, but that still doesn't have anything to do with leagues, imo. I wouldn't feel like I'm better than someone because I'm not attracted to them. It just isn't a good fit.