blonde579 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 After having sex my husband said to me three things that crushed my spirit....one..I am not special....two..he can do better....three..he doesn't make love to me only have sex with me and he rather go online or beat his **** not because he doesn't enjoy it but because I turn him off...wow..my world was crushed in a matter of minutes...after all that he wants to stay married because for one I do everything for him and he wants for nothing.. he actually said we good ma don't worried we will be alright...now who has blinders on...are you kidding me... Link to comment
iamkaylee Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Oh wow. I am so sorry. Yeah, I'd be done. That's a complete and total turnoff in every way possible. Walk sweetie and don't look back. You're worth way more than that. Link to comment
clueless11 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Holy crow. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. Just know, that through all this pain you have right now, he does not deserve you. He never will. You are better than this. It probably doesnt mean anything right now, but I believe in you!!! Link to comment
Joleen Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Oh man, I'm so sorry. I guarantee there's another woman in the picture. A man doesn't say these kinds of terrible things to his wife unless there's another woman; he's trying to make himself feel better about his infidelity by making you to be the bad person. Leave and don't look back. See a lawyer, protect yourself, get a good settlement and cease all contact with him. Link to comment
Roxie84 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Wow, he sounds like a peace of shhhhhh....work. You're officially ending this toxic relationship? Congratulations! I'm happy to hear it. Link to comment
Blue92 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 I got 3 things to say about him 1.) He's a worthless piece of sh** to treat you like that. 2.) YOU can do waaay better than him. 3.) JACKA** Link to comment
Avila Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Wow. Just wow. I am speechless. I can't imagine the hurt you must be feeling right now and i offer lots of internet hugs. Leave his butt. Don't think any more about it. When someone speaks to you that way, you know it's over. You deserve so much better it's not even quantifiable. You are not a doormat. Stand up for yourself and leave him. Get a lawyer, protect yourself and never look back. He has no love or respect for you. Link to comment
blonde579 Posted September 29, 2012 Author Share Posted September 29, 2012 I have except my marriage is over and I will be ok....he said he is sorry and didn't mean it and wants to stay together but the damage is done and I. Am going to stay only until I fisish my company and find a place to live but I am not sure how to take looking at him knowing this is how he feels after 5 and half years...wow...what was it really to him.... Link to comment
iamkaylee Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Doesn't matter what he says now or why he said that crap to you. You can't just take back stuff like that. That cuts right to the core. Get your ducks in a row and go ahead and go. That's the right thing for you to do and it's great you're so sure about that. Every time I had to see him, I'd feel nothing but disgust for him. What a slimeball. Link to comment
Justme3 Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 Those are horrible things to say. I would talk to a lawyer immediately and kick him out. Link to comment
Kieren956 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 Oh yea I bet he's gonna tell you he didn't mean it, but does he honestly think you're that stupid? Or so worthless that you'd forgive such a thing? There are some things you can NEVER take back and no matter how sorry you say you are, or how much you act remorseful, having said those things is all you needed to know the depth of hate, the utter lack of love or any kind of appreciation that a person has for you. To have said that is simply too much, it's like telling you to your face "I hate you and I have no respect for you and I know I can get away with it because you're such a loser that you'll take anything I dish out". Please, do yourself a favor, and prove him wrong. Never let him touch you or come near you again. Never let him have the satisfaction of living this down. Tell him to "go beat his meat on the Internet, since he said he'd rather do that, no problem, buddy, knock yourself out! In any case, you ain't never getting your dirty hands on me again" Link to comment
Evillink88 Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Damn, that is so ****ed up! Get away from this guy forever. I'm a guy and I find it beyond despicable. Link to comment
becomingkate Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Talk about messing with someone's head! Totally and completely emotionally abusive, and I'm so glad that you're starting the process to leave. Link to comment
Dinocaz Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 What horrific things for any person to say to another. Walk and keep on walking without looking back! Let him do his thing online as with that kind of outlook he better get used to the only comfort he will get in the coming years is a self hand shandy! What a total .... I wont say it. I recall me ex calling me all the names - telling me how damn ugly usless i was etc. Do not believe a word of it. The failings are in him. NEVER EVER AGAIN LET HIM HAVE ACCESS TO YOUR MIND (OR BODY) Your worth so much more! Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Wonder how Blonde is doing. Last I heard her husband had been diagnosed with bipolar, and was going to have treatment so she was planning to wait a bit and see how things went. Hope she is okay. Link to comment
RedUK Posted November 20, 2012 Share Posted November 20, 2012 Sweet God Almighty. I am.......apoplectic. Massive, massive hugs to you. I'm so sorry he said those sickening things to you. Please, however you can, try not to internalize those horrifically abusive words. My advice? Find a counselor and a lawyer, stat. Get talk therapy and GTFO...or tell HIM to. That way he can be free to beat off whenever to whatever he wants with wild abandon on the streets. I'm just....shocked. Keep posting here... Link to comment
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