Piet Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 her birthday is coming up this October, i am really curious if i should send her a birthday message because i dont want her to think i dont care about her anymore, maybe she will get resented. any advice? Link to comment
Kromon Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 If she broke up with you then I would say no don't. That is assuming you are following nc. If you talk regularly then sure go for it. Link to comment
soloman9 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 NO PIET NO. I have already outright called you delusional and will continue to do it until you stop behaving like this! I understand you are upset but please read through your backlog of posts and realise how you sound to outsiders. THIS IS WHAT YOUR EX IS THINKING OF YOU. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 how many times do you have to hear NO!!!!!!!!!!!! you asked this before and people already told you no then as well....or are you hoping someone will say yes? this is a very bad idea, you know she moved on and is in a new relationship now and the last thing you want is her and him laughing over you, stay cool and don't let her hear anything..... Link to comment
Piet Posted September 25, 2012 Author Share Posted September 25, 2012 ok i wont, i just wanted to be 100 percent sure. i find this whole break up really hard, i find myself having the same dream every morning with her and it kills me, it almost seems so real and when i wake up i feel like day 1 of the break up Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 yes i can imagine and i really feel for you, but this will not help! she will only have a laugh or be annoyed and you wouldn't want either.....it sucks, it is hard, it is painful but you will get through this, maybe in a year time you will read back on this and have a laugh yourself with your new stunning gf, and then your ex wants you back......life is a mystery....you just go on.....something great is in store for you, and maybe this break-up was necessary for you to find that something great! Link to comment
MasterPo Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 There is a page on here, you can write her all you want but it never gets sent. Might work for you and if/when you send that happy birthday just understand rejection still hurts and so does false hope. I wish you luck. Link to comment
eternalsunrise Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Let the day come and go. Don't let her hear a word from you. There is no constructive (to your future) reason to contact her on her birthday. Trust me, you will feel good about yourself the next day. Link to comment
nattpanter Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I would personally go for flowers! Link to comment
calichick007 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I would personally go for flowers! No. No, no, no. Link to comment
nattpanter Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 No. No, no, no. All girls love flowers, or chocolate with a nice card! Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 All girls love flowers, or chocolate with a nice card! Ummm...no....not from someone they've broken up with and are trying to move on from. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 All girls love flowers, or chocolate with a nice card! of course not, not from the ex while you are in a new relationship....of course not!!!! and seeing as you are not a girl yourself you cannot possibly know what all girls want... Piet, trust the woman advice here and don't be tempted to do this!!! Link to comment
nattpanter Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Don`t write me off here! I have lots of female friends and I`ve seen how they reacted to their exes sending flowers with a card or chocolate! Make it short and classy and don`t overdo it. The gift speaks for itself! Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 but were they also already in new relationships?? i would never appreciate that when i am in a new relationship..... Link to comment
nattpanter Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 No they were exes! Girls like cute small gifts, but as I said...DON`T overdo it! Link to comment
Angler Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I thought Natt was being sarcastic...now I see he is serious. Piet - do nothing. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 but from all the previous threads you can see she doesn't want anything to do with him and is in a new relationship, so very, very bad idea! Link to comment
nattpanter Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Well, then he has the option of signing it without his name...maybe just "distant lover" or "yours forever " Link to comment
Maroon Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Piet, I did that with a previous ex girlfriend. I messaged her on her birthday. I did get a reply, but it was a very cold, unappreciative reply. I would suggest not sending her a message on her birthday especially given your circumstances. If it makes you feel better, just say a prayer for her or wish her well quietly and keep it to yourself. Hope this helps. Link to comment
markie6 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I smell troll , sadly... Link to comment
Piet Posted September 25, 2012 Author Share Posted September 25, 2012 GUYS do not get me confused! who had the experience of sending a birthday message to their ex when they had a boyfriend at that moment? did you get a good respond? Link to comment
Maroon Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 GUYS do not get me confused! who had the experience of sending a birthday message to their ex when they had a boyfriend at that moment? did you get a good respond? I didn't get a good response from my ex. Hence my advice not greet the ex on her birthday. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 please Piet do not get confused, you only hear what you so desperately want to hear, do not do this, as a woman, i can say she will NOT appreciate it and you will only end up feeling worse..... nattpanter, please, do it anonymous would accomplish nothing, you are only trying to get the poor guy's hopes up for nothing or are having a good laugh on your own.... Piet, don't do it, stay strong and ignore this, you know she moved on, doesn't want contact and is in a new relationship, she doesn't want flowers or a message from you she has moved on....do not hurt yourself even more!!! Link to comment
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