Kromon

In my personal experience and from friends that I know women seem to come back more in some way. I don't think you can generalise like that though. It's entirely down to each individual situation and not on sex. (But this is slightly off topic.)

Thought I'd come back to this forum and post my story seeing as reading over others experiences helped me quite a lot. My ex girlfriend broke up with me 10 months ago for really unknown reasons, she gave me some but it was your typical " I need to find myself, I still love you but not in love". I tried to convince her for about 2 or 3 weeks that she was making a mistake but she was having none of it. After those 3 weeks or so I transitioned into NC which lasted for a few months until she contacted me around christmas with what I thought were breadcrumbs so I kind of shrugged it off with very short replies. We actually ended up meeting up after contact from her increases and she said she regretted breaking up with me. We slept together a few times and I felt like this was good for me because I still felt that I had her on a pedestal in my head, but afterwards she was normalised and I felt at ease with it all. I actually felt like I didn't want to get together at that stage but I continued to see her until I found out from a friend that she was actually seeing someone else. I confronted her about it and she basically told me she wasn't in the wrong as we weren't together. This did upset me but in no comparison to the initial breakup. I shut her out of my life yet again and was in total NC up until about 5 weeks ago when she contacted me. She sent me a huge apology saying I didn't deserve to be treated that way and she hates the person she has become (partying a lot, some drugs). I said I appreciated the apology, don't hate her but I won't be there for her in any way. She said that OK she just wanted to let me know how sorry she was and that she would respect NC. Well that last for about a week where she came out to me that she still has strong feelings for me and would do anything to make it work again. Now after some talking over the last few weeks the ball is pretty much in my court, I have said to her I can't trust her and I want her to go and sort herself out on her own and then we can talk. I don't want to be any kind of crutch and for me to be sure of her feelings I need her to be on her own for a bit. So I guess that she has come back to me and this time seems genuine, but I wouldn't be able to just take her back with open arms. It just wouldn't work out, I wouldn't respect myself. For anyone wondering I am mid 20s and she is early 20s. Some may say she had GIGS but who knows, some of the symptoms are definitely there. We were together for ~4 years, break up occurred 10 months ago. 3 months of NC to begin with, then another 5 months strict NC. I'll be sure to update again so watch this space!