Question for Men - What makes a girl great in bed?

[gluestick]

Hey guys, here is a question for the men out there: what makes a girl great in bed? What differentiates the good ones from the bad and the great ones from the good? Is it her attitude? How she rides? Willingness to experiment, to please? It would be interesting to hear guys' opinions and hopefully for us to learn something. Maybe someone can post a similar thread for women's take?

[pl3asehelp]

That she truly and authentically enjoys sex and doesn't care about her appearance.

[LostInMyThoughts]

I think it's going to differ from guy to guy, but for me, when a girl really sets out to please me. Kisses my body, rubs me, makes me feel sexy, etc. I'm not just saying foreplay, though. That's boring. A bad experience is one where the girl just lies there, or she thinks that the only thing that I need is to bust a nut. The great ones, well I dont know how to describe it, but I know it when my toes curl

[dontblink182]

from a girl who has been told many times how good I am... I can tell you just to not be a dead fish. Be into it and stay in the moment. Don't be afraid to show how much you enjoy it. And if it sucks, don't fake it either. Cuz they'll never learn... Give little hints, move your body to make you feel good. And when he sees how good you're feeling, he'll be very pleased with himself... I hope I'm on the right track here haha

[nbr]

That she truly and authentically enjoys sex and doesn't care about her appearance.

Absolutely, this. If a guy wants to sleep with you / make love with you, then he already finds you attractive. No need to worry

from a girl who has been told many times how good I am... I can tell you just to not be a dead fish. Be into it and stay in the moment. Don't be afraid to show how much you enjoy it. And if it sucks, don't fake it either. Cuz they'll never learn... Give little hints, move your body to make you feel good. And when he sees how good you're feeling, he'll be very pleased with himself... I hope I'm on the right track here haha I think you are. My wife faked it for *years* and I never learned, and frankly, neither did she. It wasn't till we started to really experiment that we found what really worked for us. I like many things, my wife enjoys most of them. The most important thing I think is a girl who will speak up and tell her guy what she likes. Us men (me at least) take great pleasure in seeing genuine pleasure on our ladies faces. Again I think everyone is different, but sometimes being ok with being debased a bit can be fun for the guy, but I wouldn't make it a habit, maybe a treat now and then...

-nbr

[The_Seeker]

Absolutely, this. If a guy wants to sleep with you / make love with you, then he already finds you attractive. No need to worry

 

There is an exception to that statement.

 

Even if a guy/girl does sleep with you, it's not because they find you "attractive" you either. It's just for them to get out of their system. LOL

[iamkaylee]

Us men (me at least) take great pleasure in seeing genuine pleasure on our ladies faces.

-nbr

 

Quite a few of us women get off on seeing our guy genuinely pleased too. So guys, don't be shy to speak up about what you like either.

[nbr]

There is an exception to that statement.

 

Even if a guy/girl does sleep with you, it's not because they find you "attractive" you either. It's just for them to get out of their system. LOL

I really think this is the exception, and at the very least, while they may not be "into you" you are still attractive. How many of us here, even really desperate, would have sex with someone we were repulsed by? I'm guessing a mighty small number.

-nbr

[Day_Walker]

If you are strictly talking what make a girl good in bed then it has to be her technique and her skills in the bedroom. Her willing next to experiment doesnt make her good in bed but it does make things much more interesting.

[The_Seeker]

I really think this is the exception, and at the very least, while they may not be "into you" you are still attractive. How many of us here, even really desperate, would have sex with someone we were repulsed by? I'm guessing a mighty small number.

-nbr

 

Everyone has a different level of attraction.

 

I don't think there is a small number. If there is a small number, then we would not have so many threads "Oh my god, I slept with him/her, why is she not responding etc?"

 

LOL Any person is desperate to get rid of their "virginity" due to feeling "inexperience" or wanting to "experiment" while not caring how the other person felt.

 

Hence the term "play."

[ConfusedVirgin]

I'm any person who's a virgin and I wouldn't do that to someone. That is kind of offensive.

[jul-els]

Strictly sexually speaking, what makes a woman good in bed for me is her level of lust. A high level of lust is hot. Also her ability to know her body and when and how she will orgasm is huge turn on. Again, just from a strictly physical standpoint.

[HappyHealing]

for me the best sex I had are with those who are fully present, who goes with the flow, not too eager to please nor too eager to get off, just stay present and enjoy whatever it is that we are doing. That is a state of being an attitude to sex rather applying of specific technique in bed to reach orgasm. The joy of such experience last for a long time!

[BlueEagle]

I'd say a willingness to please, show confidence by occasionally initiating sex (and especially oral sex), talking dirty, being open minded enough to try new things in the bedroom (as long as they're not too bizarre), and if she can comfortably communicate what she wants, what she needs, and how to make her feel good. Every woman is different and what works for one might not work for another so speaking up about what you like is essential (same applies to us men), as well as being vocal when done right as a form of positive reinforcement.

[Roxie84]

Yes! I LOVE THIS POST! Keep it going!

 

Men: please give us some more hints - especially what type of body motions you enjoy/appreciate! I am 100% confident in my ability to please in all other ways, but during intercorse, I'm grinding, clenching and unclenching vaginal muscles, touching, dirty talking... but sometimes wonder if I'm doing it "right". Please leave some input!

[Roxie84]

@ConfusedVirgin I think what she means is that a lot of people who are inexperienced want to rack up those notches on the bedpost, not really caring about who it's with. Same token, there are people who have had a whole lot of partners and just don't care. They are lousy lovers because they are focussed so hard on racking up numbers that pleasure and attraction don't matter to them. That's not to lump you into the same category because you are inexperienced. People like that are in a category all on their own lol

[nbr]

Yes! I LOVE THIS POST! Keep it going!

 

Men: please give us some more hints - especially what type of body motions you enjoy/appreciate! I am 100% confident in my ability to please in all other ways, but during intercorse, I'm grinding, clenching and unclenching vaginal muscles, touching, dirty talking... but sometimes wonder if I'm doing it "right". Please leave some input!

I like it when my wife is on top and obviously enjoying herself. When I'm on top she wraps her legs around me and pulls me in, that's always wonderful... Talking dirty? if it's a little, then yes, if it's a lot then it's too much like a porno (my tastes, I'm sure those vary quite a bit).

 

Seriously, best thing? Knowing she's enjoying herself and is not afraid to tell what she wants, followed closely by being willing to try new things.

-nbr

[FYI]

I don't know, I'm kind of freaky so as long as she's willing to be a part of that there won't be any problems! lol

[Lonewing]

how do I say this...

 

Sex is a physical activity.

 

The people who are best at physical activities are atheletes. Why?

 

Their bodies don't get in the way!

 

Think about it this way, who's going to run the mile better:

the guy who doesn't run but is shapewise lean,

or the guy who doesn't run and has an extra 50 lbs to lug around the track with him?

 

AKA: Make this one more incentive to lose the extra pounds, better sex!

 

This is about the only part I can think of that isn't mental.

[confused1979]

I think the most important thing is communication. we can not read minds, so be honest about what feels good and what does not

[tazunemono]

Personally, I am looking for someone who has confidence and is fun. Confidence naturally comes via sexual experience, but doesn't imply that experience is the main requirement. Every woman's body is different, and needs to be treated differently. This runs the gamut from one girl who would come every time I kissed her neck, to one girl who couldn't get off without penetration and a vibrator on her clit. I have been with women who have me do ALL the work (felt like sex with an ice cold mannequin) to one who did all the work and would slap me if I touched her (kinky!) Haha ...

 

I guess I prefer someone more in the middle of the sexual spectrum with occasional forays to the extremes ... mostly fun with a LITTLE crazy/wild side

 

Also someone not afraid to share what they want, good communication is key.

[Natasha24]

Every answer will be different, but I'm sure every guy will agree that CONFIDENCE is important.

[pl3asehelp]

Every answer will be different, but I'm sure every guy will agree that CONFIDENCE is important.

 

Hm, not saying I feel this way, but a great many men like a submissive woman in the bedroom - hard to be both submissive and confident.

[Natasha24]

Hm, not saying I feel this way, but a great many men like a submissive woman in the bedroom - hard to be both submissive and confident.

 

I think it's definitely possible. My boyfriend likes me to be submissive, but in a way, I need to be confident in myself to do that. Not to be too graphic, but he likes to do certain positions and sex acts that require my body to be "on display" so to speak, and I need to be confident with myself in order to do that for him.

[tazunemono]

I think it's definitely possible. My boyfriend likes me to be submissive, but in a way, I need to be confident in myself to do that. Not to be too graphic, but he likes to do certain positions and sex acts that require my body to be "on display" so to speak, and I need to be confident with myself in order to do that for him.

 

Makes perfect sense. You can't be a "lights off" or "under the covers" kinda girl...rock out what God gave ya and have fun!