Ryme Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 Just found out that my ex husband's girlfriend is pregnant. Thought I was fine with it, but I'm posting on here, so I guess I'm not! He left an eleven year relationship with me, when our daughter was two. Within a week, he was living with his new partner, who is 22 (he's 33). She always dates people who work in the same profession - someone from that profession attacked her when she was 17. Weirdly, after the attack, she chose to go into that profession herself. Since then, she's dated three married people (including my husband) and the marriages have ended each time. With the first two, she stayed with them for two years and then walked out without warning, leaving them reeling. She and my ex have moved house a few times, fallen out with their colleagues (they work together), moved to a new area and got jobs there, all in the past year. He says they're very in debt and that my life must be easier than his because I don't pay rent (I live in my parent's old house). He doesn't realise how hard it is for me to arrange childcare for when I work, and that my part time wage is somewhere around the poverty line - so even though I don't pay rent, money is a struggle. Then a year later, they're expecting a child, apparently an unplanned pregnancy. Can this work? Does that child have a hope of growing up in a two-parent family, or are the odds they're fighting too great? Does this mean he'll see our daughter even less? A small, vindictive part of me that I try to keep buried, was hoping that perhaps she'd split from him and give him a taste of his own medicine. But now they're expecting a child, and I'm hoping they'll manage to stay together. I know no one really knows the answer - maybe it'll work, maybe it won't... but I just felt like I wanted to share the story, hence this post! Thanks for reading. Link to comment
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