Amorterra Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 So it’s been over a week and a half since our breakup. I’ve been an absolute mess. He tried to contact me and we had a couple of exchanges that were angry and emotional on my part, and rational on his part. The end result of this was that he says he still wants to be in my life and talk to me. At the moment I cannot and will not reply until a time when his messages don’t turn me into an emotional basket case. The thing is, in the past, I’ve immediately erased the exes from my life. I go “no contact” immediately, as soon as it’s clearly over. For example, the one ex, my last serious relationship, I haven’t spoken to in 7 years and that was from day 1 of that breakup. My policy has always been that if someone hurts me, they do not deserve to be in my life. However, in the case of the one ex, I felt that erasing him from my life left a huge hole. I also am at a point in my life where I feel that severing ties with people is something I cannot continue to do. So I have already decided that this time, I would like to keep my ex in my life. Only I’ve never done this before. What I’m wondering is, if anyone has kept their ex in their life, how does it work? Does it ever stop hurting? Can you really be friends? I love him, and how am I supposed to watch him date, marry, have kids with someone else in the future? We are in separate countries so not seeing him will make things easier, however there is still email, Facebook, Skype, etc, and he says he wants to still talk to me. I am strictly “no contact” for now, because that’s the way it has to be for me. But how to make it work for the long term? Has anyone done this? Link to comment
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