peaceOfmind78 Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Rather than post comments on my wall, most guys send me private messages on fb. Why?? Is it rude if i tell them to post their comments on my wall instead of sending me messages in private? What's with the private reply? There's nothing private about what they're saying. Perhaps I just don't get it...enlighten me. Link to comment
camus154 Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Maybe they feel like their communications with you don't need to be put on display for the entire world to see. I know, novel idea, huh? Link to comment
Furbys Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Once again social networking sites making us overthink things. He is just sending you a message/wanting to chat whats wrong with that? Doesnt matter if it is private or not. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I would be offended if someone asked me to make my message less private than I desired. I can't stand having conversations on a facebook wall - if you want to be in touch with me, get together in person , or something similar, send me an email. And if I don't want everyone to see what I want to share with you, that's my business. Link to comment
RedDress Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I think the bigger question is... why do you want everyone to be able to see who is talking to you and what they are saying?? Why does it matter to YOU where it is if you can read it just the same? It is no additional effort for you to check your inbox than your wall... Why the exhibitionism? Yeah... you can't really ask people to go more public. You can ask them to go more private - but not more public. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I think the bigger question is... why do you want everyone to be able to see who is talking to you and what they are saying?? Why does it matter to YOU where it is if you can read it just the same? It is no additional effort for you to check your inbox than your wall... Why the exhibitionism? Yeah... you can't really ask people to go more public. You can ask them to go more private - but not more public. Yes I'm wondering that aswell. You obviously want people to see these messages as tho you have some action happening on your wall. That's all it really is about - which if you think about it is sad! And you know why you get p/messages. Probably because these guys don't want to piss off the girls that they know are following them on face book! Link to comment
FathomFear Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Rather than post comments on my wall, most guys send me private messages on fb. Why?? Is it rude if i tell them to post their comments on my wall instead of sending me messages in private? What's with the private reply? There's nothing private about what they're saying. Perhaps I just don't get it...enlighten me. What actually upsets you about this? Do you want the satisfaction of everyone on your friends lists seeing guys talk to you? That's really the only thing I can think of. Link to comment
TheVP Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I think the bigger question is... why do you want everyone to be able to see who is talking to you and what they are saying?? Why does it matter to YOU where it is if you can read it just the same? It is no additional effort for you to check your inbox than your wall... Why the exhibitionism? Yeah... you can't really ask people to go more public. You can ask them to go more private - but not more public. Because that defeats the purpose. What's the point of hearing from someone if it's not for letting the world know how interesting your posting was and how popular you are. Link to comment
peaceOfmind78 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Share Posted November 18, 2011 I am not upset at all. I'm just trying to understand why these guys choose to send their comments in private about for instance a cool photo I was tagged in as opposed to posting their comments on my wall. I do realize that I'm overthinking this. My definition of private must definitely differ theirs. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 If you choose to have photos of yourself on Facebook especially those that likely will trigger comments then you have to accept that the comments might not come in the form you desire. Link to comment
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