sweetgirl030 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I was married to my exhusband for 9 years then we divorced because I wanted it. Now its 4 years later and we have talked about getting back together and we are I guess you can say boyfriend and girlfriend technically . But its not going anywhere . I have tried to talk to him and he doesnt want to talk he changes the subject or just gives this blank stare. There has been a lot that has happened between us when we was married and even after we were married and now there is that baggage. I am trying to forgive and I have lots of regrets but Im trying to better. But he just says take me as I am , or sorry I have been single too long or Im stubbern, or the human race is selfish, and I love this one he says I am a simple man. I dont understand that one bit. He's a simple man yes, but sooo simple that he cant think to do better for himself and for his family? I dont get it. I do get that he doesnt want to talk about somethings or do anything different with himself but in order for us to be a family again including our son, something has to change, Right? Yes do I want him to change sure I do but do I also know and realize I cant change him, yes believe me I know that, but I would think he would want to do better for his kid for his family what would be best for them. I also understand that we are both scared and are both in a comfortable place, we both do our own thing, live in our own places, and hang out when it is convienient, but still help each other out. I just feel stuck and I dont know what to do, any ideas, opinions or suggestions??? Link to comment
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