ironman73 Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 So I met up with my ex-bf on Nov 2. And we shared a couple bottles of wine (i.e. the truth serum) I need some help with interpreting some parts of the conversation. Am I being too hopeful/stupid/torturing myself? Him: Do you still have the pics from Mexico? Me: Yes I do. Him: Can you put me back on facebook so I can see them? (I had blocked him from facebook and google+) Me: Don't you have them on your computer? Him: Yes. Me: Well why don't you put them up on your page? Him: Because I am lazy. Me: Well get to work. Listen- I don't want to see pics of you any other girls Him: Oh c'mon- you know it is not going to be like that. Well, just add me on anyway- as a limited profile Me: Why?so you can reminisce about old times? Him: Yes. And it makes it easier for me not to talk to you Me: Look- I am not going to make it easier for you not to talk to me. I am going to make it as difficult as possible Him: How about you just add me to google plus? Me: I'll think about it- maybe in a month. Him: Please? Him: You know, despite what happened with me and (ex-gf- his first love which took 4 years to get over) we never blocked each other off facebook Me: You probably looked at each others photos zillions of times. Him: Yeah. But we never commented on them. Me: Well, I am not (ex-gf) Him: Yes- you are more special than (ex-gf) Me: I am more recent than (ex-gf) Him: No, you are more special to me than (ex-gf) . Besides (ex-gf) and I are completely, totally over Me: I thought we were over. Aren't we? (silence) Me: What did you do with all of our (racy) Pics? Him: I took them off the computer Me: Yes, I guess that having them on there would be a bad idea. Where are they? Him: On a flash drive. Me: Now you have cleaned off your computer for your next girlfriend. Him: What did I tell you about assuming? I took them off so I wouldn't look at them every day. Me: You looked at them every day? Him: Yes- well, only the days you weren't around... Me: Really? Him: Yes. Me: I am afraid that if, in 6 months you get your act together, you will get another girlfriend because you still won't want to be with me. And that would be so hard for me. Him: There you go. You are assuming again. D- do you honestly think I will ever find someone as pretty and intelligent and as fun as you? Me: No. Him: So what are you worried about? Let me do my own thing and get my act together. Me: I feel like our relationship is like a body and we have a cancer. The cancer is created by your insecurities. Him: Your insecurities too. Me: Whatever. And now we need to do surgery to fix it and cut out the cancer. Him: D- gimme me a break. It's not like we have pancreatic cancer like Steve jobs. You and I have a thyroid issue. Me: You mean a thyroid cancer? Him: Yeah. What is the cure rate again? Me: 90%. Him: So we have a 90% cure rate. We just need minor surgery Me: And radioactive iodine Him: (laughs) Him: This is just as hard for me as it is for you Me: Really? How so? I can't believe it Him: I bet you didn't know that I lie in bed every night from 1930-2300 trying up sleep. And when I do get to sleep, I sleep from 2300 to 0300. Then I get up do a couple of push ups and maybe read and start the whole day again Me: So I guess you'd never date anyone with kids again Him: No. Never. I mean, unless of course it was you Me: I have to drink myself to sleep every night Mutual friend- C is not going to do ANYTHING which will ruin his chances of getting back together with you So the plan was to do NC for the rest of the month. But I broke down in Australia (didn't have an internet connection otherwise I would have talked to you guys). I texted him that I missed him terribly and that if he didn't miss me at all or feel that I was a source of happiness, to please let me know NOW because I don't want to spend the rest of the month thinking about it. I didn't hear a reply. So then I texted- I guess from your lack of reply you do not miss me. Thanks for indirectly letting me know. Take care. Then I got a reply: What did we say about assuming things? And I never heard after that. I don't know if I am being too hopeful or if he really does need space to figure things out. I am not afraid of him meeting someone more special than me, but I am very scared of being replaced by someone who is less than me. How do you deal with that? Thanks D Link to comment
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