DaniArizona Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 I was doing fantastic at NC....really. Than about a week ago I receive a FB message from him saying, "heard about your tooth, hope you get better" (I had a horrid abscess tooth). I replied, "Thanks," Which honestly did not need a response, but he wrote back, "No problem. Have a good day." I replied, "Thanks you too...by the way, how did you hear about my tooth?" His response: "I miss you so much and I'm sorry. I do love you." He called...told me he heard I was going to New Mexico to visit some friends and that instead I should go to Oregon to see him. REALLY?! That he's so sorry for hurting me. That he loves me so much and that we really are meant for each other. My responses were limited. One word sentences. Conversation drew to an end. He said I love you. I said nothing. Phone call ended....Thanks for the head games hun. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Lol, whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? Did he even try to explain himself? How long have you been broken up? By the way, you handled that like a CHAMP. Link to comment
jas56 Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Agreed with the way you handled it. Sometimes you have to do whats good for you and if this is it then...... Link to comment
DaniArizona Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 We've been broken up for a little over a month....first 2 weeks were HELL....didn't eat, couldn't sleep....prayed I'd hear those words from him every day....finally I've been moving on....I mean, yeah, it's kinda hard...but I'm having fun now and I'm excited about living a new life and finding out who I am. Ugh...honestly I think it's all about control with him....he likes to have control over me...I quit calling, texting, emailing, etc. and I think that's what really got to him....he is such a jerk. Link to comment
jas56 Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 It is a good thing that you realize these things. Since most people want to feel that connection they ignore the obvious. Live your life, and fuhgedabout him! Honestly, if you have to take him off your fb or block you should do that in addition. Link to comment
DaniArizona Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 I already took him off as a friend pretty much right after the BU....I don't want to completely cut all ties with him so I won't block....I love him, I care about him, and if he could quit with the head games I'd like to have him SOMEWHAT in my life....I don't want to know all details of his life but if he wants to drop a line to say, "Hey, I'm doing good." I'm all down for that....just nothing too personal. Link to comment
PrettyGood Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Yeah, totally mind games... i hate when people say something nice and then say that you don't mean to be together. Are they retarded, or what's wrong with them? It's not even logical! > Link to comment
jas56 Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Understandable. Hopefully he will in time learn to respect your position on the situation. Link to comment
DaniArizona Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 Well, before the NC on both ends (which has only been for about a week 1/2, up until the other day of course) he was calling every night. I wouldn't answer so he'd leave horrible messages calling me (well, actually I'm pretty sure I can't write these words on here) but they really weren't nice at all....pretty much saying I'm out sleeping with everyone and I'm irresponsible and blah blah blah..I finally told him to STOP CALLING ME AND LEAVE ME ALONE. Considering the back story of the BU, he has no right to say ANYTHING to me...about ANYTHING. Silly silly man. Link to comment
jas56 Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 Sadly, it doesn't seem like he knows that but don't fall for the BS. You become a better person when you learn to deal with these situations. Looks like your on the right track though. People don't miss the water till the well runs dry. Link to comment
DaniArizona Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 That's exactly what it is. I'm done....I still miss him...I wish he hadn't broken up with me in the first place, but he did, and he really hurt me, and I'm done. Time to move on. Link to comment
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