ashley2323 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Just when I thought I was done with the forum, I'm back again, holding onto whatever sliver of hope I can... Long story short: I was with my ex for a little over a year. He was unhappy, he treated me poorly, and I can see this very clearly now. He dumped me at the end of December last year, only to come crying back at the end of March (literally crying), saying he'd made a huge mistake. I gave him a second chance, only to have him tell my good friend at the end of May that he just wanted to be friends with me. I then tried to be friends with him; he then accused me two weeks in of telling people we were "still working on it." (I had done no such thing). Outraged by this, I decided to stop contact, and let him contact me when he wanted to. He never did. We then had a couple of awkward run ins in which he ignored me completely. On the final of these awkward run ins, I sent him a text that (dramatically -- we were tailgating) asked "What did I ever do to you?" I got no response. I responded, "Nothing, exactly as I'd thought." He then went off and asked why I cared, if the situation had been reversed I'd have just talked badly about him, etc. I responded with a text that really encompassed everything I'd been wanting to say to him. I'd never expressed anger towards him -- just hurt -- and I saw this as my chance. I told him he was cruel, he was selfish, he treated me poorly, and that he should really think hard about the way he treats people, etc. I did not expect a response. I then received a massive text, in which he admitted he was wrong to treat me the way he did, that he never meant to hurt me, that he truly apologized for everything. He then said he "wished things were different." (I, of course, tried not to read into this). We ended the conversation on good terms -- I told him to say hello the next time we ran into each other. So then, a week or so later, he texts me to tell me that he ran into my sister at a bar, was surprised she was nice to him, wished me a happy halloween, and said he hoped I was safe. (?). He then messaged my sister to tell her it was really good to see her. Then he texted me later in the week to rehash an inside joke. The following week, he texted me to talk about a new album he really liked. Then we ran into each other. He was with a friend of his that I never thought liked me, and I was with a friend who he knows does not like him. We said hello, then sat around awkwardly at different tables, but it was okay. Later that night, he texts me again to say that he ran into my sister and asked me to make sure she got home safely. I was asleep, so I didn't get it until the morning, but he said he saw her out and was concerned about her. We had a little conversation, and said thanks for looking out for her. Is there anything I should be reading into here? Or is it likely that he's just trying to be friends as he wanted to be back in the summer? I don't get why he'd ostensibly cut off all communication in the summer, but now seems overly friendly... I guess at this point I am trying to maintain 0 expectations (but of course, I'm posting in the getting back together forum, so maybe it's not working out so well...). I'm not initiating any contact with him, and he remains off of my FB friends list. But I am wondering what's going through his mind. Any insight appreciated. Link to comment
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