am I falling out of love?

[girlfromjersey]

At work. Can't concentrate. Can't focus. Have I fallen out of love with him? OMG I'm freaking out!

 

Is this why I complain about everything? In my other posts.

[DN]

Judging by your previous threads perhaps your question should be whether you ever were in love?

[blackhawks1287]

Instead of fixating on whether you do or don't...start thinking differently and figure it out another way.

 

Be proactive instead of just sitting there...because eventually you are going to run into your own little self fulfilling prophecy and could bite you in the ass (if you do in fact love him, but are just complacent)

[In the Dark]

Reading from your posts it's really hard to tell whether it's your expectations or whether neither of you are not really being into each other I am not certain.

[girlfromjersey]

I'm beginning to think coming to this site wasn't quite the best idea. It seems that I should just use common sense and not waste other people's time.

[DN]

You're not wasting anyone's time - sometimes other people's opinions may help you focus.

[girlfromjersey]

Yes but is just getting very frustrating to the point of crying. I've managed well until today. I'm just looking for that 'perfect' relationship I guess. I have been for sometime with my previous relationship. Perfect doesn't exist i know.

[In the Dark]

Maybe you could write down what you believe is a perfect relationship then post it here and see what the opinions are from the members here as to whether it is realistic or not.

 

Just in case the thought of your own relationship is failing when in truth it maybe just a natural transition

[girlfromjersey]

The spark, the spunk the fun is totally gone. For me at least. It is hard to grasp on what he really thinks. He is 7 years older than me. Does that matter? He is a hard working man. He is a bit of a control freak. I don't worry much whether we are late, or out of milk. He does. And gets upset about stuff like that. Not to the point of breaking a wall, but it really just frustrates me that lil' things like that get him. When we are in bed, after sex, I enjoy a good snuggle. Or at least a small talk, instead of just rolling to the side and say, ''That was good good night''. This coming from the guy that wants me to be more adventurous with our sex life. I get turned off by that. I may not be a porn star in bed with all the tricks, but I try my best with EVERYTHING.

 

We decided we needed to go away somewhere. I mean, we were planning to go out of states to somewhere romantic. But instead, we never managed and ended up somewhere down the Jersey shore. It doesn't matter to me, at least as long as i am with him. But all he wanted to do, apart for the occasionally passionate kiss here and there, was to get me on the slots. Seriously, I felt like the older crowed in the casino, who just sits there for a long period of times, with a lost face expression. That was my first time EVER gambling, and I didn't enjoy it. I don't like it. But he kept insisting that is fun. He doesn't gamble either. Actually, he says he's only done it a few times. ANywho, I'm getting off the topic here.

 

My expectations right now are:

1. Have some one who will NOT mind if I wanted to talk about whatever, after sex, or even after work, or whenever, instead of the eye rolling.

2. For him to lay back a bit. Not worry if we are out of something in the fridge. It is not the end of the world.

3. Make me want it. Talk to me...in that kind of way.

4. Make me feel wanted, loved in public. Because that is such a turn on!!!

 

Darn, I have many more but I will leave it to that.