im_the_undead Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 did it take for the like to become love and the act of "f------" to become "making love" ???? yes, i know.... i have many questions. forgive me. lol Link to comment
mhowe Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 don't worry about the label if you're having great sex! Link to comment
slammin16 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 it took me 5 months to say I love you, but everyone is different, however, i felt it was always love making except for those drunken nights! Link to comment
DrKitten Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I don't really believe in the love making vs. f**king dichotomy. Romantic, slow sex is not for me. I like my sex on the dirty side, but there is warmth and intimacy there as well. It's hard to explain. All I know is I feel very close and connected to my partner even when we're saying dirty things and pushing our limits. It doesn't have to be an either/or situation. Link to comment
Lady Rashomon Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I agree with DrKitten. I think it's a false dichotomy. Intimacy is intimacy, even when it's not accompanied by candelight, long-suffering glances, and other indicators of romance. I think it depends a lot more on the person you're with. I've had sappy lovemaking sessions that were just blah, and I've also had intense mind-blowing f**king that required a degree of vulnerability and surrender which served to make the entire situation more honest and loving and tender. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 Why would you want to ruin your sex life like that? Link to comment
FathomFear Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 This question sounds like a really lame article that you would find in Cosmo, lol. Having said that, I think you're really asking a different question. It's more "When does physical attraction stop being the central element in my relationship?" The fact that you even have this concern is an indication that you're not confident your partner is with you for the right reasons. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I don't really believe in the love making vs. f**king dichotomy. Romantic, slow sex is not for me. I like my sex on the dirty side, but there is warmth and intimacy there as well. It's hard to explain. All I know is I feel very close and connected to my partner even when we're saying dirty things and pushing our limits. It doesn't have to be an either/or situation. I agree but I also think there is a diffence in dirty sex and romantic, even if it's just changing p the environment, sometimes I'm in the mood for a quickie and dirty one and then other times I want it slow and sensual - but dirty can be romantic too as dr. Kitten said Link to comment
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