Crushed!! puzzled!!, please help me!

[JuzlikeparkerNjane]

Hi, here it goes.. I've been knowing this girl since 3 years ago over the net chatting. We were from the

same country but she study abroad(Aus) which only makes us good friends over the internet during that

period. Now I've to continue my education in the same country with her. So I told her that I am coming

to Australia to study and she make herself sounded so busy as she said she

doesn't have time to accompany me when I am here or something. She said she has plenty of datelines

and dont have room for socializing. But that is only a line typing from keyboard.

So I came to Aus and said I wanna meet her (Still friendship stage). I just wanna meet up my friends here

in a stranger country so that I know someone around. OK, then she made a slot for me. I was very happy.

 

Ok now the story begins, at the first day I met her, at the first sight I sees her, at the first voice I

heard from her, I feel something crushy with my feelings already. I never felt this way towards a girl before

when I 1st meet a girl or my 1st date. It seems like we have so much to tell. Then we have dinner, she bring

me around the city and we seems to have a very good good time laughing and chatting together. Then I send her

home, and we ended up just with a hug. (I Still standing in a friendship way).

 

So I went back, give some thoughts, thinking "Maybe is just a crush!" nothing much. I dont want to ruin my only

friend here. So I let myself free for a week to see how it goes. On her side, she gives me all those signs

telling that she has to concentrate on the studies and she hasn't got anytime for herself. She have to do her

research 24/6 it seems, except friday night. Telling that she doesn't want a bf because she wants to

concentrate on her studies and she doesn't want to screw up somehow.

 

So, again FINE! no worries. I hope this is still from the act of keyboards. So this has restricted me trying

to call her. Now I my feelings is a little puzzled. Then we just casually chat over the net again.

Then, I tried to ask her for a dinner again to see whether I have the same feelings like the 1st time or not.

 

Ok, she agreed to have dinner with me. Then I went meet her up, when I sees her, the same feelings came by again

only this time it already grows higher. Then we have dinner again, the restaurant was so noisy and we cant really

talk much so we ended up at her place, I send her home and ended talking in her room. I SO SO wanna tell my feelings

to her, but the house has people around, and her roomie keeps coming in and out of her room interrupting our

conversation (dont know why), btw, her roomie is a girl. I wasnt really piss off, but then just puzzled at that time.

So our conversations justonly some blah chatting. nothing much. Then I leave her house,this time I dint hug her

and dint say I will call her. Maybe my feelings was crush and confuse again. I wasnt a good night btw.

On my way back, I think back and lucky her roomie interrupt us, because I dont know that whether is it right to tell her?

 

Now, my problem is, I dont know how to convince/tell her or should I give more time for each other?. My feelings is

killing now. What should I do??? Is this only a crush??

 

 

Please help me out.

[skeeter]

Whether CRUSH or not!!! Did you listen to what she said to you???

 

She said she doesn't want a bf at this time because she doesn't want to screw up her studies!!!

 

Sounds clear to me....Why not you???

 

Besides honor her voice..... If she likes you then step back and see if she comes after you..... Stop chasing her!!! It's not worth it!

 

When someone is really interested in you it will clearly show... It won't be a feeling that you have now.

 

You can't make someone want you. You can't change a person! And a relationship is 50/50 give and take anything less then this will lead to failure.

 

Don't get caught in a trap in which you think if you don't show her the attention that she won't like you. If she likes you she will find a way to show it to you regardless of her studies.

[JuzlikeparkerNjane]

Yeah, I partly agree with you though. But I still like her very much. And perhaps I can give myself some time or each other some time until her course end, which is end of this year.

 

Is that wise btw?

 

 

 

Thanks for the reply!!

[bestfootforward]

yeah, even if you want someone, if they don't want you its not worth it.