Aren't Saturday nights the worst?

[StandTall]

It's Sunday morning, and I can't help but wonder where my ex was last night. I don't always think about it, but I am this Sunday morning. I actually went on a date last night, but I don't think she stood a chance even if she were perfect. I think I realized that I am not ready for that yet. It has been 4 months out of a 7 month relationship, and I still hurt. How does everyone cope with the weekends?

[Ated]

Oh gosh, do i feel you man!

 

I know exactly what u mean. It's been 3.5 - 4 months that ive been out of a nearly 2 years relationship, and the break up was because of that! Saturday nights... He won't spend it with me... He spent less and less time with me since he met his new friends and now part of the 'gang' u know?? POTHEADS!

 

To answer your question, just hang out with other friends... that's what i did and it helps. Although, someitmes, even when im out, i still can't help but wonder what he's up to. Well, i found out just yesterday that apparently, he's got a new gf. Just imagine how i feel! Oh well, the way i see it, what can i do!? So what? ill go to places where he goes and look at him having a good time with a girl?! I dont think so!

 

Even I'm not ready to date, i think now that you knwo that, you shouldn't too. Not til' ur ready. Firstly, you will enjoy ur time more, and secondly, you won't hurt your 'date'.

 

Hope that helps...

 

[StandTall]

Sorry to hear about your discovery of his new GF. It really sucks. Yeah, I realized that I may need to take a step back before I enter the warzone again. As much as I hate everything that has taken place, I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I am powerless over it.

[Ated]

Well, it helps knowing your not alone right??

 

just wish i could do more to help you. But ULTIMATELY, this test is yours...

[splendidlylost]

How do I cope with weekends...?

 

When I'm single (which I may end being again soon), it's usually time to just exist. I'm usually so tied up with the more business-end of my life to really let anything absorb. Weekends are my time to turn off part of my brain. I read, play video games, lift weights, see friends...the usual guy stuff.

 

Grab some of the guys and just hit a bar and have a few drinks. I find the often pointless chatter of other guys to be a great relief. Yeah, our conversations may last hours and go nowhere, but then, who said they had to?

[deebee]

Yes. weekends suck! Too much time to think about how great they used to be when your ex was around, the things you used to do together etc.

 

Weekend mornings are the worst for me. Lying in bed alone without having to get up to work always reminds me that she's not there with me If I'm not careful, this can get depressing.

 

It helps to keep busy. Plan your weekends so you always have something to do and to look forward to. Socialise with old friends, go away somewhere, do things you've never done before, exercise etc etc. Good time for focussing on yourself and rebuilding your confidence. Don't expect to get back where you were instantly, it does take time...(three and a half months for me).

[Ated]

hey man... just checking to see how u doin??

 

Getting better? Hope so!

[StandTall]

Things are not great, but better. I have my moments of sadness, and I still miss her. I do know that it is over, and don't have any false hopes. I still cry, but not as often. I am trying to date, but that is a difficult, confusing process. Hope you're doing better as well.