Time to let it burn. Good bye yesterday, hello today

[kantore]

I am just writnig here to express a problem that i think many of us run into. We have problems moving on from our last relationship. Even for those of you wh are like me, and say "but I am dating someone else". Well I know for me even though I have and am dating other people now, I have not completely moved on from my ex. This realiztion really troubles me, and I think I know why. Some of it might be that I want a fairy tale ending. But deep down I know my chances of that happening and it being a successful relationship are very slim to none. If I had to choose I would say none. But things just remind me of her, like gifts, letters and photos. So tonight as the sun goes down I am going to LET THEM BURN!!!! Thats is right almost 4 years of memories are going to go up in flames, and as I watch our memories burn I will remember certain times, but know that this is my way of stepping out of the past and into my future. This will be the closure that I need. I will always have my memories in my head, so there is no need for any physical reminder of somthing that was truly a waste of my time.

Kantore

[kekep]

i would be very careful when burning photos, letters, cards, whatever...If there is something extremely sentimental to you that she has given you, I would put it in a box and store it away in a closet you don't use often. Hide it away, because later (be it months or years), when the hurting stops, it may bring you a sense of happiness. I will say that certain things can probably be burned, but personally I would keep a thing or two stored away just for nostalgic's sake (Unless the break-up was terrible and she treated you badly throughout the whole relationship, then feel free to torch it.)

[hurtabandoned]

Not a bad idea at all. If that's what you need then go for it.

 

Don't forget your marshmallows!

[JT]

Dont burn the items out of anger.. burn them out of forgiveness... forgiving yourself to cleanse yourself.

 

I know what you mean about dating others and it being weird. I'm in the same boat after moving on from my ex. You kind of subconsciously compare the two. I know in time this will go away.

[TrueHeart]

I agree. I still have things from my ex-fiancee almost 8 years ago... now that the burn is gone, it just brings back a lot of great memories instead of remembering the pain right now.. It just reminds me of a happy part of my life when things were so innocent and fun.. I spent a good portion of my teenage youth with him... He was my first, my highschool sweetheart-- all in one..

 

Now that I've completely moved on from him, I can look at those things and think "Hey, I had a really great time.."

 

But the pain has to be gone.... otherwise, destroying them might hurt you later because they will be gone forever without any memberances of a good time....

[kekep]

kantore

 

did you burn everything yesterday? off the subject, your picture is really cute

[Jake212]

Kantore,

Dont burn it all, I agree with TH you may want to keep a little something. After all the hurt and the years go by it might be nice to a a little something left. Pick one picture and burn the rest, but keep a little something and put it away for the future.

[kantore]

I did not burn anything, I gave my stuff to a good friend and he has it at his house. I asked him to bring it over so that I can take a match to it, but he refused too, so I guess my plan will have to be on hold for awhile, if ever. Anyway thanks for your intrest, and thanks for the compliment.

Kantore

[TrueHeart]

Well, it is a cute picture... Surprisingly, I actually resemble this cartoon of Supergirl very much.. heheh... You remind me of the older Anakin Skywalker... which isn't bad because he's a fox!