Define: Asking Out

[JasonQ]

I know this has probably been addressed many times before...

 

How exactly do you "Ask someone out"

 

 

For example, where i eat lunch sometimes, there is a mighty fine girl that i would LOVE to "ask out"

 

problem is, as with most, i cant even talk to this girl, and i dont have much conversation, and i know nothing about her.

 

Do i just go up to her and "ask her out" by saying hey would you like to hang out sometime?

 

I mean, i may as well be a total stranger!!!

 

I have opportunities come to me every once in a while to see a girl i like, but i think my problem is, that i analyze everything way too much, and end up kicking myself.

 

What to do?

[Scout]

Well, are you only wanting to ask her out because she's hot? No wonder you're in a difficult position. You need to at least have a conversation or two to know if you'd actually have anything in common with each other, or if you like her personality. Plus, if she's really good-looking, she gets hit on all the time. What's going to make you stand out to her if you haven't even talked that much? Right now, I think you should set a smaller goal of starting a few conversations with her. Than worry about how to ask her out.

[JasonQ]

so then.....

 

 

how might i go about striking up a conversation with her?

[Scout]

Does she wait tables at the restaurant you're talking about? If so, next time you go in ask to sit at her station. Then you're in a position where conversation is possible. Do this a couple more times, and she'll start to get to know you. You should be able to pick up after a few conversations if she's interested.

[JasonQ]

well, see thats my problem though... i have had those opportunites.. and still fail to take them, because i have a hard time even talking to her.. .im not sure i could hold a full conversation with her, cause im a loser... hah

[Scout]

Well - I don't know what kind of advice I can give you that tells you how to seize your opportunities. It's something you just have to get more comfortable doing, and realize that the worst thing isn't getting rejected/failing, but never even bothering to make the attempt. And you're not a loser - maybe just a little shy about this particular girl. It's kind of cute. Anyway, buck up and get in the game!