Question for the women/gay men: how can one learn to control the gag reflex whilst giving head?

[Shepard]

This gag/choke thing seems to be the biggest blockade to her enjoying giving me head (at least that is what she tells me). So is there a way one can learn to block it out or overcome that feeling? If so, please help, I would greatly appreciate it.

[agatha]

the first thing to avoid gagging is to make sure the smell and taste are not too strong. even if you clean yourself properly, your diet and lifestyle may alter such characteristics.

 

then, she must be fond of the idea itself. if she associates it with things that only dirty women do, she needs to get over it first. IF, and only IF SHE wants to.

 

and then, she must learn how to breathe while doing it (that's why it's called a blowjob, learned it recently) - the timing of the inhale-exhale pattern and the movements help your whole mouth to be in a position where your gag reflex won't turn on the red light. only practice makes it perfect.

[Fudgie]

When I give a BJ, I really try to relax and enjoy it. I sort of go into a different state of mind, almost like meditation. I just get into a "groove" and everything melts away and I keep going until the end is reached.

 

The key is to ENJOY it and relax.

[Jd1983]

It's really mental more than anything else.

 

Perhaps, she can put a mint or candy in her mouth to try to enjoy the taste? I heard of people using a banana to practice.

 

She just has to be willing to try, and eventually that feeling will go away.

[thejigsup]

It's all about the angle of your head and neck. At certain angles the throat muscles relax and you can take in 12 inches easily. A "pro" told me this and showed me how. It really works!

[Cognitive_Canine]

I believe it's mental as well. When I'm really into it, I can probably not have to worry about gag at all. But, once I gag, I'm made conscious of it and am a little sensitive to gag again for another few moments.

[MariaValentine]

When I first gave my boyfriend a blowjob, he was so big that it hurt my jaw for a week afterwards.

 

But now, I find that I can easily give him a blowjob and go really deep. So personally, it is about relaxing but also there is a way to train your gag reflexes by slowly introducing yourself to how deep you go. If you just try and shove it all in there, it's going to make you feel a bit weird. Whereas if you find other ways to make it feel good (for the girl) then she can begin to get used to it.

 

Also, make sure you let her know how much you're enjoying it!! I can't stress this enough, there's nothing like giving a man a blowjob and have him respond to it. It makes me feel like I'm doing a good job, which makes me feel sexy, so it makes me want to go deeper and experiment. Just make her feel comfortable, don't pressure her into anything, and as long as she enjoys it I'm positive you will too.

[TasmineFr]

i find that when i try , my mouth is too small and it feels like i am about to vomit , but only because i am forcing my self to push it really down

[Mauxly]

I agree with the other posters, the key is to relax. You have to relax your throat. It can take practice.

[KG]

When I give a BJ, I really try to relax and enjoy it. I sort of go into a different state of mind, almost like meditation. I just get into a "groove" and everything melts away and I keep going until the end is reached.

 

The key is to ENJOY it and relax.

 

Quite good advice. That's how my g/F approaches it. She can deep throat me when she is relaxed, and takes her time. It's about timing and approach.

[righteo]

I KNOW HOWWW!!!

 

Press your thumb onto your palm. It seriously works.

here's an article for more information.

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its got something to do with a pressure point on your palm

[bearskittie]

righteo lol thats for travel sickness.

The best thing i think is to get her that excited that she gets carried away lol works for me and i have a sensitive gag reflex.

[righteo]

well it could be for travel sickness, but it stops you from gagging...lol i don't know...

[generaldiscord]

I don't think you should be pressuring your girlfriend to deepthroat you.

 

There are other ways of giving a blowjob. She can use her hands or move her head more.

[thegoodgirl]

Righteo has the idea. I learned this trick one night after a few drinks for some strange reason, but if you make a fist with your LEFT hand (the right doesn't work, again I don't know why) and squeeze your thumb into your knuckles/palm it takes away your gag reflex. I'm not sure if it will competely take your girlfriends' away, but it can't hurt.