Wow My Heart Hurts

[MsDexter]

A week since the break up going on to 4th day of no contact being dumped over religion really hurts. And I know we'll never get back together

 

Just last Monday he held me and told me he loves me. And now we don't even talk it's so hard I still don't fully understand it. How he could do it.

[pumpkinmoon]

Im so sorry. It's all of the questions that make it so much worse. I have even thought, that if asked, they wouldn't know the answer to half of them either.

 

A week is nothing. This might scare you, but during the first break up with me ex, it took me 4 months to feel remotely normal. I didn't do the right things though. I locked myself in my room for a month and did nothing. Looking back, that was not good.

 

Starting to go out again was hard. At the end of the night I couldn't wait to get home to release the tears that had been building up all night. But you get used to it.

 

I can promise that it does get better. I know you can believe me 100%, because it just doesn't feel like it will. To be honest, I have a hard time believe it too even though I know it gets easier because I have experienced it.

 

What have you been doing with your time?

[MsDexter]

Yeah and I am so afraid that I am going to feel this bad a year down the line.

 

I haven't been doing much I sort of have to just let it all out it's hard to do anything else at the moment but I am planning to go shopping and get new hair style

[pumpkinmoon]

Yeah and I am so afraid that I am going to feel this bad a year down the line.

 

I haven't been doing much I sort of have to just let it all out it's hard to do anything else at the moment but I am planning to go shopping and get new hair style

 

That will help, I did that too. I used to think that way too but it just happens. When I "let go" the first time I knew it. You just know when it happens. That is when you really begin to heal. For me, after this came moments of feeling ok and even good again and that was a shock to me because I was used to feeling so down.

[MsDexter]

I cannot wait till that feeling finally arrives thank you for your replies.

[pumpkinmoon]

I cannot wait till that feeling finally arrives thank you for your replies.

 

It will. It just takes that awful thing called time. It's almost as if your body and mind just get tired of feeling so bad all the time.

[Onegirl]

They say that time heals all wounds but sometimes that's hard to believe. All you can do right now is live one day at a time and try to stay busy.

 

google thought stopping and see if that helps. It worked wonders for me.

[stay_positive]

Just stay strong and distract yourself...

[learning2relax]

Keep yourself busy. If you don't feel like it, force yourself. It helps. And it does get better. It just takes time and your patience isn't at it's best in times like these.

[MsDexter]

I am trying I've rearranged my room I talk to my friends planning to go shopping and get new hair style. I've signed up to a gym. But mornings are so hard and late night.

[learning2relax]

Yes they are. What I try and do in the mornings is stuff around the house. Picking up, doing a load of laundry, dishes, etc..... Put on some music that has no memories tied to it and is upbeat, etc.... Nights you can keep busy by reading, watching tv, movie. It is going to bed and closing your eyes that I am looking for the answer to!

[DeenasRhino]

You are right about that.

 

For late nights, I try to exhaust myself right before bed so I go to sleep right away.

Some nights, I just stay up late on my computer or exercise and I'll be out like a light when I hit my bed.

 

For the mornings, whenever I wake up, I try to immediately get out of bed so avoid the lingering feelings. From then, just get on with your daily deeds.

[MsDexter]

Yeah late at night watching a movie and that really does help but as soon as some cheesy scene comes on it's annoying lol.

 

Mornings I am trying to get up straight away and distract myself. It's helping a little but still a lot of time things feel very empty.

[DeenasRhino]

I wish I could watch movies at night alone.

 

My ex and I used to do it from time to time which is why I refuse to do it now.

[MsDexter]

Yeah it was a bit hard to do but it distracted me so for an hour or so at least I didn't think about him as much. It's been a week and I still make my mum sleep in my room I am 21 it's embarrassing. But when I am alone it's so much worse