mylovemyway Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 My ex dumped me a month ago. He says that he has strong feelings for me but he can't be with because he can't trust me. I think he is neurotic/paranoid/anxious so he is always worried that I have or will cheat on him. He can't be with me anymore because he is so terrified of getting hurt. I have not cheated, of course, but he won't believe me. I did the whole begging/pleading thing but now I've given up since he made he clear that we both need to move on. So I've backed off. The other day he send me a text that said "So you're not talking to me anymore? I understand." and I responded "Of course I want to talk to you. I just don't know what to say if you don't want to be with me, but I still care for you deeply and want to talk to you as a friend and be there for you if it's not too difficult" and then he didn't respond for a day. Now he sent me a text that says "I wish things weren't so f-d up." Should I even respond to that? I feel like once I respond, once I "give" my feelings again, and feed his ego or whatever it is that he is consciously or subconsciously seeking, he is just gonna back off again. It seems like perhaps he has to see that if he does not want me, I will move on, for him to rethink his decision. I do want to reconcile, but it has to come from him. I realize I need to take care of myself and I'm not gonna go back to pleading. Been there, done that. I've already made it clear that I love him and want to be with him, and I've already pleaded, but he said he can't do it. So what does he want??? Link to comment
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