bart Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 I ended things with my long distance boyfriend of 1 year, a month ago. The distance was hard, we were fighting a lot the last 2 months, and I figured it was best to end it. We haven't spoken since, as I decided no contact is best for me to heal, he did contact me once but I never responded. 3 weeks!!! after we broke up, he got a new girlfriend. I feel really sick about this. It's like I'm right back at square one. He told me his ex-girl before me took him 2 years to get over!!! How is this even possible? Is she a rebound girl? How did he find a girl so fast, and make her his gf in 3 weeks?!! Is he dating her to get over me?! I was doing surprisingly well, until I found this out. Now I find myself thinking, "wait, are we soul mates? should i contact/e-mail him? did i make a huge mistake and let go of 'the one'?" I keep feeling the urge to e-mail him, just to talk to him, to see if he still cares, to see if we'll ever have a future. I came so close e-mailing him, but I think my stubborness won. I didn't want to contact him, because I haven't for 4 weeks, & wanted to stick to it. I KNOW I'll look desperate if I do, because he has a new gf, and I'm the one that broke it off anyway. I really think the break-up was the right choice. But, I think because I'm extremely lonely, & so hurt that he got over me so quickly..I'm second guessing myself. So, what do you think? I keep replaying the good times we had together, & thinking about how we really did click so well, and it was honestly the best relationship I'd ever had, before it went sour. We did fight, but we just clicked, like 2 ppl that were meant to be. I think of how he told me he loved me, and wanted my kids, and wanted to marry me. But then I think of the bad times too, I even wrote a list of cons to keep myself on the track of moving on. And it hurts, and I feel like e-mailing him and spilling my guts out. But wouldn't that be a mistake? I just feel really, really alone and so hurt at how he's moved on. The main reason I ended it was because the love just felt like it was dying? On both sides, and I assume it definitely was for him..because he got a new gf. Lately, my main worry is that if I do want to be friends with him down the line that I'll have no way to contact him. (I know this is stupid to worry about right now..when I should be trying to get over him, but I really do worry about it.) I worry he'll block me on messenger (i haven't seen him online in days, so this actually freaks me out), or email, or anything and I'll never get to talk to him again. And I think that's why I contemplate e-mailing him now. So, I'm just wondering..should I contact him? Or should I just never contact him..ever again? I feel stupid for wanting to know if he misses me, or if we'll ever get back together..but I do want to know. I really just need some opinions. It's been a month, and I'm feeling so alone, and so depressed. Please, any help. Btw, I'm 19, and he's 22. Link to comment
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