loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 origanal post....it would need to be read to understand what im talking about here, sorry i was on msn today and seen my ex signed in, i thought ill wait see if he says hi, but he said nothing!! i never spoke to him.... the reason im confused is...for the 2 weeks i was there we had sex, even though we were finsihed, he acted just like when we were together, when i left he said wed stay friends, he was the 1 that said for me to come back again not to waste my flight, we have talked through text and he knows im still going.... so why did he ignore me!! what the hell is all that about? any ideas? Link to comment
Lostbutokay Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 I slept with my ex Saturday too. Then Sunday she ignored me. I've finally decided to just go no contact. They obviously don't want to be together right now, and I'm going to stay away and make them realize what they lost. Same goes for you. He just doesn't care as much as you want him too. You ever been with a guy that you just didn't care about too much? You didn't go out of your way to explain things and keep plans I'm sure. He's doing the same thing toyou. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 origanal post....it would need to be read to understand what im talking about here, sorry i was on msn today and seen my ex signed in, i thought ill wait see if he says hi, but he said nothing!! i never spoke to him.... the reason im confused is...for the 2 weeks i was there we had sex, even though we were finsihed, he acted just like when we were together, when i left he said wed stay friends, he was the 1 that said for me to come back again not to waste my flight, we have talked through text and he knows im still going.... so why did he ignore me!! what the hell is all that about? any ideas? I would suggest no sleeping with an ex. It makes you more attached. He might be ignoring you because he is busy or doesn't want to talk right now. The important thing for you to remember is it's not going to do you any good to hold him to any particular standards when he's treating you in a way you don't feel you deserve. Essentially, you need to recognize that you can decide to put up with being ignored or walk. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 nooo way am i gona sllep with him again, im there to get ma stuff, obviously see what he says, then if nothing im gone for good this time.. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 lostbutok did she finish with you, also is this the first time shes finished you_ Link to comment
shessofly Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 loulou, you said yesterday you were NC until you got there. you changed your mind i take it? Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 nooo i never spoke to him....i at least thought hed say hi, but he said nothing, i was just gona sign off if he spoke to me, tun things back on him ya kno Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 the thing is... i told him to text me if he was with someone else... to let me know b4 i went, hes said nothing, he knows im going, so why dint he at least say sunt, hes the 1 that said wed be friends, its confusing me!! Link to comment
shessofly Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 so if you told him to text you if he's with someone else and he hasn't texted, then maybe he's not with anyone else? true nc means you aren't looking for them on AIM, MSN, Yahoo, Facebook, etc.... Link to comment
shessofly Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 i think ms darcy gave some excellent advice. you should re-read her post. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 the thing is... i told him to text me if he was with someone else... to let me know b4 i went, hes said nothing, he knows im going, so why dint he at least say sunt, hes the 1 that said wed be friends, its confusing me!! I hate to be blunt, but he's fair game. If you think it's wrong for him to date, don't sleep with him. Please stop letting yourself feel like a victim here. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 i wasnt looking for him on msn, he was on there when i signed in...i only have a few contacts and he was at the top of the list...i had hoped he would at least say something. i agree too with msdarcy, n shes right, but the thing is im going out to collect my stuff and yes im hoping maybe we can fix things, i love this gy very much, so this is not the normal sort of situ , im confused and dont know how to deal with this. i never asked to go back there, that was him, im gonna be there a week, and well to ignore me when he knows all this is just being crappy Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 i dont think its wrong for him to date, i think its maybe a bit soon but thats my opinion. but he could at least wait till ive collected my things...and gone, im staying with him, if hes dating what the hell am i supposed to do, where does he think hes gonna take his date.... back to his caravan with me there!! Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 hes not said hes with anyone anyway, its all getting a bit confusing Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 hes not said hes with anyone anyway, its all getting a bit confusing I don't think it needs to be confusing. Whenever you see him, speak directly about your concerns. Tell him that you think you two can work things out, that you don't want him dating others, etc. If you are unsure of anything, you need to talk to him to get clarity and then hold him to what he says. You also need to tell him that him ignoring you is confusing and why. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Share Posted May 11, 2010 i think msdarcy ud need to read my original post to understand whats going on.... Link to comment
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