Rosesong18 Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 This is a long post so I will apologize now. Yesterday, I went out to lunch with my boyfriend of a year and a half. We've never really had any big fights, only a couple little bickerings every once in a while. We went to lunch, hoping to just spend some time together. I'd been in Chicago for a week with my band and I'd missed him, was looking for some time to visit with him. The entire time we were at the restaurant, he complained. He talked about how everything he has is breaking. His car needs repairs, his laptop has stopped working, as well as his phone. He also talked about how things in the house are breaking down, the AC isn't functioning, the septic tank backs up and floods the backyard. He complained how his parent's refuse to fix anything in the house (He is in college and living with his parents, the community college does not have dorms and he does not have money to pay for an apartment). He talked about how he did not have money to make any of these repairs and that his parents won't help him. He also is paying for his own college (when he decided to stay at the community college because of his ex, he lost all scholarships to his other school and changed his mind too late to apply for scholarships at the community college). He spends his money on unnecessary objects, such as a $400 automatic airsoft rifle that he rarely uses and two guitars he bought on a whim, and other such things. He also complained about his job and his boss. During the course of the meal he only asked me two question, both of which picked at me. He asked me how my trip was saying in a very sarcastic tone that he was glad I enjoyed myself. He also asked me how often am i going to be at home this summer, seeing that I'm "always off doing things and never get to see you" This was all just during our meal. when I arrived home, I was in tears. All I wanted to do was visit with him because I'd missed him while I was gone and all he could do was complain and say negative things. When he talked to me later on, things escalated an he said things, trying to turn the conversation on him hurting not me being upset with things such as "I shouldn't complain about things, I always make everyone feel bad" "I'm sick and hurting over how i made you feel" and begging me to not leave (which I had never intended) He then proceeded to say that I am his only friend and that he has noone to talk to. We all know how unhealthy that is. When I go off for school, I will not be here for him to hang out with and i told him he needed other friends than me or he will end up reclusive, which made him blow up about his manic depressive father who in anti-social saying "I will never be like him, my world will not end when you go off" I really am not sure what to do now. I've tried to show him the point of the things I said, such as he shoudln't spend his money on unnecessary things and how he needs to make friends, but he just said "I'll jsut not talk about certain things any more" Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated. Link to comment
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