Skrat281 Posted May 6, 2010 Share Posted May 6, 2010 Hey everyone. First post here...I hate to come to the internet for advice, but Im tired of the one-sided views from my friends. ....Just a quick background. I'm a 24 year old Chicago firefighter. I have a great job, make good money, I've never been in trouble, and I'd like to think I'm a pretty decent, caring guy. My fiance and I have been together now for 4 years, and I recently moved out of my moms house 2 months ago into my own apartment. We have a GREAT relationship. We get along, we have fun, sex is great, our families like eachother...Everything is great. Theres always a 'BUT' though, isnt there?... Heres our problem...HER MOTHER....I took a big leap moving out of my parents house so that my fiance and I could spend more time together and learn to live with eachother and grow up before we're married and theres no turning back. Her mother is very old fashion, she grew up in Idaho with a strict family and hasnt yet grown to the way life is now...She wont let my fiance move in. (Thats fine. I understand)....But she wont even let her stay the night. I'm a firefighter, I work 86 days a year, we go on trips all the time and spend a week together alone, why is it such a big step to stay at MY place? ....I got this place to learn to live with her before we're married, and to be honest, this problem is starting to effect our relationship. I still feel like I'm in highschool having to drive my girlfriend home every night. We've talked about this and she said she'd talk to her mother, but I see no effort yet....I hate to say it, but I'm almost thinking about calling off the wedding and putting our life on hold till she can stand up to her mom and tell her its not 1950 anymore. I dont want a problem with her family, since when you marry, you marry the family too. I dont want this to be a problem anymore, and I want to work this out but I'm at a stand-still here and lost with what to do. HELP ME! Link to comment
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