ezious Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 This is a follow-up to a thread I started about a month ago. My girlfriend had a major surgery and has been down. The surgery would have her be in casts for 6 months, plus physiotherapy afterwards, etc... About a month ago I posted how we are not affectionate and that I have a problem with this, and everyone mentioned how she seems to be depressed. The advice was to support her during this difficult time, which I did. About two weeks ago we discussed this, and she felt there is nothing wrong with the relationship and she is taking out her frustration on us. She needs time to herself so we suggested she take a break and work on it herself, but I would be there if she needs support. We are in a long distance relationship (canada-US), and I'm currently in the job application process of moving to the same location. Not for the relationship, but this has been a two year plan of mine (kinda how we met). After giving her two weeks we talked, things were still difficult for her, and long distance has taken a toll. Additional background info: We were together in the past for 1 year, and now back together for 5 months after being apart for 1 year. Before we got back together, she talked about how she wants to take time to herself and be single just to work on herself since she has not been single for 6 years. She did not want to date, but work on herself (this is very true, not bs). However, after hanging out, thiings got intense and we got together. Now: Since things are difficult, she said now would be a good time for us to break up, not to date others, but so she can work on herself until I move. Once I move, we will resume dating and go from there. In the meantime, we will talk frequently until I make it out there... Question: Is this a load of bs? she says she loves me and this is hard for her to be apart, but she says she's doing it for us because she knows for a fact if we continue like this, we will just drift apart eventually. She says this time for herself will help us. I want to believe her. Especially since nothing was wrong before the foot surgery. In fact, days before her surgery she sent me a long e-mail about how much she's in love with me and wants to be with me. I have been so patient for the past two months. Should I believe this? If you need to take time for yourself to work on yourself, would you actually still be in love with someone and want things to work out? I need outsider opinions... Apologies for the long post. I just wanted to make sure you have all the details. feel free to ask for more details. Thanks Link to comment
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