About what love means

[Hermes]

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Love & Marriage: Fantasy & Facts.

 

In the American way of love, marriages are contracted 'for love'.

But often the kind of 'love' that leads to the altar is romantic infatuation.

After the honeymoon is over, grim reality submerges the fantasy.

The bubble of romance,

which seemed so exquisitely beautiful for a moment,

vanishes with a silent pop, leaving only a small wet mark.

 

In other cultures,

marriages are created for more practical reasons.

If there is to be any affection, it might develop later.

But perhaps romantic love and marriage are incompatible.

Projected fantasies seldom survive years of living together.

Romantic love can be an enjoyable and harmless emotional game

—as long as we don't attempt to construct our lives around it.

[JonasWaingaro]

Never let an existentialist define love. hehe

 

Though an interesting article.

[sidehop]

I like the article and agree for the most part.

[itsallgrand]

Thanks for posting that, Hermes.

[Hermes]

More:

 

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Bringing it Into Reality

 

Infatuation can even be thought of as love with only 2 dimensions. With love, that third dimension is reality. So, it is actually your ability to tell what is real in a relationship, versus what is imagined. You love being part of a couple, but is this the person you want to be in a couple with?

 

 

 

Trying to differentiate your love interest from your lust interest is requires a level head and the courage to face the unpleasant. It also requires maturity and the ability to take a step back and survey the big picture. The result is more control and confidence as you stride your way in love�s direction.

[Hermes]

This has a direct bearing on the topic of "love".

 

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[Hermes]

What is a dangerous man? Most women would answer: one who is physically violent. But abusive behavior is often more insidious. Men who want mothers, not partners, who prey on lonely, passive women, who are mentally ill, addicted, or emotionally unavailable, or who won't go away when asked to leave all fall into this dangerous category. In this book women are encouraged to take responsibility for their own safety, are shown how to choose men wisely, and learn how not to make the same mistake twice. Thirteen chapters cover all the red flags of a dangerous man, offer stories of women's successes and failures dealing with each type, and provide safe ways to get out of a hazardous relationship. Armed with this valuable information, women have the tools they need to cultivate positive and healthy relationships with men.

 

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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved (Paperback)

Sandra L. Brown