can a relationship survive after infidelity?

[BellaStranger]

I think a relationship can survive after cheating but not with hearts and flowers and 'I'm sorrys'. Only with finding out how and why it happened and making real changes so that both partners can be confident it will never happen again.

 

And in this specific situation I agree totally with what yea and hex have said. There is a big difference between a kiss and an affair! It happened and you feel genuine remorse for it and have learnt something about yourself and the value you place on your relationship. I can understand your bf being upset and needing some time to process it...but there is really no need for him to put you through hell for it and if you had a good relationship before then put it behind him.