inactivecash Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 Hello! I met this lovely girl, get on really well and am very attracted to her. We have been texting every day, calling and met up on quite a few occasions for the last two weeks with friends (but we normally drift off and are alone with each other). The last time we met up we just watched some films round her house snuggaling on the couch (just us two)! It was pretty cool! Tonight we are going for our first romantic meal together and then possibly back to my house! Anyway, her ex is causing her quite a bit of bother. I know they only broke up about a month ago but she say's they weren't right with each other for much longer. He is texting her extremely abusive messages, calling her all sorts. I don't know exactly why they broke up or how but it was obviously messy. A few things worry me here. Her ex is very violent, always getting in fights and I'm thinking he's gonna go a bit skitz when he finds out about me... Another thing is I'm afraid of being a rebound. She's quite shy and takes quite a bit of time for her to get comfortable but she has assured me she likes me. Is there anything I can say to her to tell her how I'm feeling without it sounding bad. "So.. is your ex gonna like kick my arse? Are you on a rebound?" Ya'know.. I really don't want to offend her! Oh she's 19 and I'm 22, dunno if that matters though... Cheers! Link to comment
OntheWire Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 Alright, this sounds like a good time for camping. What you do is go find yourself a nice secluded camp site ahead of time and set up several log traps, trenches, skewers, pit-falls, etc. Then tell your new girl that you're going to take her camping. At some point on the trip, say your phone is messing up and ask if you can borrow her phone and text someone [your brother, father, friend] to let them know where you'll be for safety sake. At this point, text her ex with the exact GPS coordinates of your campsite and say you're the new guy and you'll be shagging his ex gf there tonight. Voila...now you've got yourself a nice guerrilla war where you easily have the upper hand. You can bury the body in the woods and no more problem. If you're not up for that kind of engagement, then I suppose you could talk to your new girl about your concerns. But from a 19yr old shy girl, I wouldn't really expect helpful answers. No girl is going to say, "Oh yeah...he's definitely gonna kick your arse." even if that's true. So really you'll just have to make your own judgment call on this one. You can keep dating her and take the chance or you can bail and find a safer gal. I wish there were a better answer, but that's the danger of unpredictable crazy exes. They're unpredictable. Link to comment
MikNomis Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 To me, I think it is too early for her to be dating someone new. They need to heal a bit and move on before dating again, or they are very prone to confusing their feelings with the old and new romance. Link to comment
inactivecash Posted March 30, 2010 Author Share Posted March 30, 2010 The camping idea sounds good. I'll try and put my thoughts accross to her tonight when we go for our meal. I'll let you know how it turns out! Link to comment
DontGetStung Posted March 30, 2010 Share Posted March 30, 2010 How long did the two of them date? Link to comment
inactivecash Posted March 30, 2010 Author Share Posted March 30, 2010 3 years orgionally, then off for a year then back on for a couple of months and it failed miserably. He was her first boyfriend but she has been with one more in between. Link to comment
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